Sure marriage is a lot of sacrifice…A LOT of sacrifice, but there are plenty of things worth being “tied down” for. Even from a man’s perspective, these are four things I love about being married.
The Process
If you’re doing marriage right, you’re still trying to learn the process. The ins, the outs, the ups, the downs. The things that cease to work and the things that replace the previous ones. Learning your partner for what they are and who they’re becoming. It ebbs and flows and is rarely stale of deep emotions of either frustration or satisfaction.
Much like chasing your goals, or excelling at anything worth doing, you have to fall in love with the process. Hopefully you chose someone else who is dedicated to the process of learning and relearning a person throughout time. The lows can be low. But the highs are unlike anything you can experience with anyone else other than your spouse. The process of growth is a beautiful thing.
Someone to Discuss Memories With
There’s a reason we naturally seek out partners to spend our time with. It can suck being alone. How many people do we know use the excuse of “I just like sleeping next to someone” to rationalize their current dramatic situation? Tons. Most of us derive our meaning through the relationships of whom we spend most of our time around. It’s always more fun recollecting on great moments of your life, both good and bad, with someone who actually remembers the event. Someone who can replay your own memory back to you from a slightly different perspective. It’s an awesome thing.
Discussing Movies, Books, and Other Things We Enjoy [or despise]
If your spouse doesn’t like watching Game of Thrones, you have a problem already. You’ll have to need to turn to the Internet, the job, or some other outside source to truly explain why the Red Wedding ripped a little piece of your soul away. But if you’re lucky enough to have a spouse who knows exactly what it’s like to go to sleep still dreaming about victory for the Stark family, sometimes no words are necessary for two people to understand what they’re feeling. If your marriage lasts long enough, the greatest thing you develop between the two of you is hopefully great conversation and companionship to discuss everything from child rearing to Game of Thrones.
Having A Partner to Reach Goals With
This is what it really comes down to. Either the people around you are pulling you up, keeping you stagnant, or bringing you down. Your spouse is no different. To have someone by your side that makes you better is literally worth its weight in gold.
Being able to set a goal, build a plan, and execute through the hurdles, frustrations, and ultimately the triumphs are the types of knots you tie in a relationship, which over time, just can’t be broken if you’ve tied those knots together.
A marriage is a partnership. And partners with their eyes fixed on the same goal are unstoppable. Whether you’re shooting for personal happiness, financial security, a foreign land to call home, or all of the above and then some, finding the right partner you can align goals with will get you both there that much more quickly. It’s a pretty awesome formula.
BMWK Men – what awesome things do you love about being married?
Zezzy says
Marriage is a partnership that has no weakness, no disadvantages and no downtime. I enjoyed this post. It gave me more reasons to hala heehaa!