Chances are you’ve heard of and probably taken part in some sort of annual spring cleaning. It starts with taking a look around your home and identifying areas rife with cobwebs, dust, and musty odors. You then begin the long, arduous process of scrubbing and cleaning. Sometimes, it seems the more we clean, the more dirt we find.
Marriages can be that way sometimes. You go about our daily routine until eventually, you find your relationship has taken a back seat to everything else. In fact, the love is hibernating somewhere and you’ve got to find it, pull it out, dust it off, and freshen up your relationship.
At issue, however, is the fact that it’s been stored away for so long and the more you “clean,” the more dirt you discover. Rather than the fun, happy relationship you once had, you find yourself caught up in a stale, musty, dry relationship.
What to do?
Well, fear not! If you’ve done any spring cleaning, you know that it’s just a matter of time before you get rid of the crud and bring back all the things that have been covered up that make spring exciting: bright curtains, fresh air and sunshine. Your relationship is no different. When the relationship has grown stale, it’s time to reintroduce the kind of fun that makes your love fresh and your union strong again.
Whether it’s jammin’ out to Beyonce’s Run the World or Stevie Wonder’s Ribbon in the Sky, there’s loads of fun to be had at a local karaoke bar. You can rent out a private room for just you and your boo, or you can make it a group night with your closest friends. Either way, a karaoke date night…or nights (think American Idol count down), can be a great way to take the fun in your relationship to a new level.
Getting off the couch and on to the dance floor is great way to bring fun and sensuality into your relationship. Making the rounds in the dancing styles will definitely liven things up in your relationship. In addition to deepening the intimacy in your marriage, you get to strut your stuff as a couple at parties and clubs.
After a night on the dance floor, nothing says relief like a day at the spa. Getting some much needed rest and relaxation is just what the doctor ordered for a musty, stale relationship. Couples massages, a nice soak in a hot tub, or a healthy seaweed wrap are great opportunities for bonding. A spa day can also give you and your spouse great chances for heart to heart conversations that open up the line of communication and bringing some fresh air into your relationship.
You don’t have to be a “Dead Head” to get the point of this activity. Planning your getaways around your favorite artists’ concerts can be pretty amazing. The anticipation of the get away is increased ten fold because you know a great concert is in the wings. Not only is it fun, but the chance to create great memories together is priceless.
Whether you are spring cleaning your home or your relationship, there are so many ways to bring in the fun and let the sunshine in. It’s important to take stock of where things are in your marriage and make sure it hasn’t grown old and stale. But, if by chance life has taken over and left a musty stench over what was once a healthy love, just know that all isn’t lost. Find what works for you and your spouse. Remember the things you did at first and why you fell in love. Then do them and start having fun again.
BMWK, are you ready to bring back the fun into your relationship?