Do we instantly go from zero to revenge and avenge in thirty seconds?
Revenge does not serve any proper survival role. The original harm is already done. Revenge will not undo it Revenge and Anger is not a place to handle everything. If you act unloving towards others, you are drained of love yourself. Try this. The next time you feel crossed or taken advantage of by someone, instead of seeking revenge, or even entertaining fantasies of retribution, do the following:
1) Pause and do nothing at all about it until you feel some distance from the incident — at least 5 minutes, maybe much longer.
2) Say the following simple prayer or another of your choosing with the same message:
Lord, let me be an example of your love and your light, that others might see you through me. I pray that you heal any brokenness in __________ that led them to act in the way they did, and that you remove from me any desire for revenge. Your Will, not mine be done. Amen.