The whole idea of marriage, is that it will last forever. Most people don’t enter their union thinking about when things will end. Instead, they go into it hoping and praying that things never end. A commitment that isn’t taken lightly by most, marriage is about enjoying the best of life, while preparing to manage and survive the very worst. It’s about staying together through thick and thin.
But what happens when you reach a point in your marriage where you start to have concerns and doubts? How do you handle things when you start to feel like maybe—just maybe—your marriage simply can’t last? Well, it’s pretty complicated stuff to be honest. Ending a marriage is never easy, and the decision to do so is one that people should approach with the same caution, if not more, than the decision they made to marry in the first place.
When you decide to marry someone, love is large part of the decision-making process. After it’s established that a profound and mutual love is present, issues of compatibility, shared values, and a shared vision come into play. Because so much thought is often given to the decision to marry someone, the decision to walk away from a commitment you made before God should not be easy to make.
Everyone’s story is different, so I can’t offer any blanket statement about whether you should get divorced or not. The reason behind a broken marriage can be complicated, painful, and hard to process for most. Sometimes, divorce begins to feel like the only reasonable option. And without knowing your unique circumstances, I can’t say that divorce isn’t the best option for you and your spouse. Maybe it is. Maybe you’ve tried everything to repair your marriage and the damage is so deep, it’s irreparable.
However, I do believe we live in world where marriage vows seems to be broken with ease and people don’t consider everything they should before making the final decision to walk away. The advice I offer here, is advice I would surely follow if I ever got to a point where I felt like my marriage was in serious trouble.
Here are five questions you should consider before you give up on your marriage.
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As someone who is about to file for divorce I have had a problem with one thing mentioned. To paraphrase “have you tried everything”. What does that mean? To me trying everything means never getting divorced or seperating, because there will always be something else to try. Sometimes you just know it’s not working. Why keep trying? To please or appease others? I know long term married couples who can’t stand each other, but they will never divorce. Makes no sense. They sleep separate, travel separately, don’t have great intimacy, etc. It’s just kids, finances, and appearence to the outside world that keeps them together. Whats’s the point? That’s where I’m at right now. There is no doubt I could theoretically stay with my wife. It would make everyone’s life easier….all except mine. Infidelity and abuse are not the only reasons to move on. Trust, respect, appreciation, support, and a few other things over time can destroy love and marriage. We I married I could see us growing old together. At one point that was a dream. That thought for me now is a nightmare.