At an early age I realized a few things in life. One of them is that people are going to treat you the way you let them treat you. When you have low expectations, you don’t get much from folks. But when you raise the bar—showing people that you know your worth and nothing less than respect will do—well, people tend to shape up or find their way out of your life.
When we enter a relationship, the most important thing we need to do is set the tone from the very beginning. The moment you allow a man to disrespect who you are in any way, it sends a clear message about what you will allow in your space. Setting the bar low and accepting behavior that leaves you feeling less than, shows the man in your life that you will accept a whole lot, even if it’s dead wrong.
Having expectations doesn’t mean you are difficult or demanding. It simply means that you know who you are and what you deserve, and you have no interest in settling for less. If you ask me, that’s best way to start off any relationship in your life, not just a romantic one.
Here are five things I think all women should and must expect from the man they decide to be with. If you expect anything less, you are selling yourself short.
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Eryn Shields says
I would add responsibility to that list.
A man who is not responsible with decision-making will bring that chaos into a marriage and that will create it’s own slew of problems.
michael whipps says
Good information,though I have a sort of problem with women,advising other women..unless they are family.Not to be controlling but one’s life experience and being on the outside looking in,can and will have an impact on the info given and received.Even if the two or more women been through the SAME things or scenario.Now I myself being a man who pays ineffable detail to my woman (when I had one) have learned one CRUCIAL detail about women (been married 3 times).The thing I learned was that at the end of the day..WOMEN DO NOT WANT YOU TO FIGURE THEM OUT!!They do not want you to know when something is wrong with them..etc.They want to COME to the man and SURPRISE you with a GOOD or BAD situation,just to see your unrehearsed REACTION,so that ANY complaints or doubts in the immediate future or down the road WILL have a basis in validity.Now thats just a sample..but with women like you giving them sound direction..its like giving you best friend a DOG that you just found out in the street!! YOU have good intentions YET you or your best friend know not in question.What I mean by this is women these days (where I am from MIAMI FL)Especially,sumerian women (women of honey colors)only look for a man when at the end of their rope..then based on IF and HOW he saves her depends on the the quota LOVE amount and HONESTY he shall recieve IF a relationship even flourishes.Anyway I ran my mouth enough..just want to add though..I just think the women of my people are simply but VERY lost and NO amount of direction or information on their OPPOSITES (men) will bring them to PAR.Simply because how they are today (to me) is the result of a SELF MADE and SELFISH inner decision. thank you
Anonymous says
You’ve been married THREE TIMES??? You should refrain from giving advice on women, marriage and relationships until perhaps obtaining some advice for yourself.
Lacresha says
Miachael, the women you choose are simply your mirror;they are a reflection of you and what you think you deserve. I am too from Miami and have heard the horror stories from my boyfriend and other males. I’ve been told that I’m different; and I know that. But, when a man gets honest with himself, he can truly say;choosing the wrong woman (sometimes more than once) may have more to with him than her. There comes a point in our lives that we must examine why we’re attracted to the “wrong one.” Lastly, women on the outside looking in and sharing advice is healthy and more helpful than you’ll ever know…
michael whipps says
I forgot to add “” you or your friend know not the DOG in question””