He just couldn’t believe his wife went all day without checking in with him. Who does that? Surely not a wife, as my co-worker explained. You see, she’s married…to an amazing man…to a provider and protector of the family…and to a caring father of their three daughters. He takes his responsibilities as a Christian husband and father seriously. Which means, if he acts like he’s married, he expects his wife to do the same.
“You better act like you married and check in with me,” the husband told his wife.
That was good to hear, real good, especially since my friend wasn’t talking about a controlling husband who’s paranoid about his wife’s whereabouts. It was the total opposite. He wasn’t trying to control her; he was trying to connect with her –his wife, his lover, his best friend, his help. Now, that’s romantic!
Our conversation got me to thinking about other ways married folk act like, or should act like, they are married. And here are 6 of them:
1. Check-in with your spouse during the day.
Now, there is no set time when this happens, but I would think it rather strange if my husband and I went over 10 daytime hours without hearing from each other. Again, this is not for control but for connection. After all, your spouse is your life partner. How can you go through life together if you spend half of your waking hours disconnected? Act like you are married and check in during the day.
Being married isn’t a static state of being; it’s a perpetual state of acting. I AM married, so I ACT married. . . everyday. It’s not something that happens automatically or instantly once you say “I do,” but it does get easier and more rewarding with time.
BMWK, what are some other ways to act like you are married?