At my bridal shower, my guests filled out note cards of advice. One said “know when to keep your peace and when to stand your ground, and make sure your fights count.” I had no idea what that advice meant entering my marriage. Over time, though, it has become something I’ve come back to over and over again, not just in terms of deciding when to be quiet, but also the times where I’ve decided to fight.
Much of the conventional marriage advice revolves around avoiding conflict and keeping the peace. My belief is that there exist moments where peace is not what your marriage needs. While no one would argue that a happy marriage means being constantly at each other’s throat, it’s impossible to go for a lifetime with someone and always see eye-to-eye. Instead of always trying to avoid disagreements, why not welcome the occasional conflict as an opportunity instead of a setback?
Here are seven reasons why an argument may be just what your marriage needs.
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Wow thats an amazing article! I am that guy in my marriage that tries to keep peace and avoid conflict…this is an eye opener and another perspective that i needed to hear. Just hope me voicing my opinion doesnt cause more damage than good. But i know i need to use my voice as well.
This is excellent advice!
Arguing I do not like to do, I’ve gotten to a point where I am tired of arguing, I rather have peace. I understand everyday will not be peaches and cream but I prefer the peace. The article was very realistic some of the things in it I have personally gone through. Marriage is hard which I have said before, but its worth it if you both want the same things and be willing to except that both of you are not going to see eye to eye each and everyday and maybe not ever.
I agree with you I just want the peace my husband likes to argue about everything.
This would very much be an article written by a woman. Women love drama. Arguing ruins relationships.