At my bridal shower, my guests filled out note cards of advice. One said “know when to keep your peace and when to stand your ground, and make sure your fights count.” I had no idea what that advice meant entering my marriage. Over time, though, it has become something I’ve come back to over and over again, not just in terms of deciding when to be quiet, but also the times where I’ve decided to fight.
Much of the conventional marriage advice revolves around avoiding conflict and keeping the peace. My belief is that there exist moments where peace is not what your marriage needs. While no one would argue that a happy marriage means being constantly at each other’s throat, it’s impossible to go for a lifetime with someone and always see eye-to-eye. Instead of always trying to avoid disagreements, why not welcome the occasional conflict as an opportunity instead of a setback?
Here are seven reasons why an argument may be just what your marriage needs.