Nowadays I feel like I have a tape/video recorder following me around monitoring everything I do and say. As the triplets continue on their journey of learning the English language, I’m starting to see why my mother sent me out of the room every time she began a conversation.
My husband and I were sitting down watching TV and he said that someone was acting stupid. No sooner than the words could leave his lips, everybody started repeating, “He’s stupid, he’s stupid.” So for the next week we were on stupid patrol. Everything and everybody was stupid.
I called my mom up to tell her what had happened and she said, “You all must now be more careful than ever.” She started to break it down for me. Be careful of the things you say around your children because they’ll repeat it, and keep kids out of adult conversation. If you and an adult are talking send them out of the room and make sure that they know this is to be done without asking every time.
She said kids will do what you do, not what you say. You will be able to tell the type of parents a child has in some cases by the way the child acts. Somethings they’ll pick up things from outside of the home and you can’t do too much about that, but control what you can and be consistent. As my mom said, just think about some of the kids you see riding the buses home from school. How many of them do you hear talkin’ loud and cussin’ up a storm. They get it from somewhere and most times it starts at home. Of course this is not the case all the time because some kids just show out for other kids but nine times out of ten it’s picked up at home.
Thankfully my husband and I are very easy-going and manage to maintain a clean vocabulary in front of the kids. Even though we are good about watching our mouths, sometimes an inappropriate phrase will slip here and there, but we are human and will have a couple slip-ups from time to time. Happily, everyone that has commented to us about the triplets has said they are very polite and mannerable. The key is to be mindful of the things we are saying in front of our children. Make sure you are sending out the best representation of yourself (your child) every time they walk out the door. It will definitely be evident in conversation.
BMWK, do you think you do a good job of “watching your mouth” when in front of the kids?
I am the grandma that is referenced in this article and I believe that what a child sees is what the are likely to do or say. I was raised by an old school mother and when adults were talking, we as children knew that we were to leave the room immediately. I know sometimes children hear and see somethings that are inappropriate, but if you train your child to respect their elders and themselves I think you will have a well rounded child on the road to becoming a respectful adult.
I am the grandma that is referenced in this article and I believe that what a child sees is what the are likely to do or say. I was raised by an old school mother and when adults were talking, we as children knew that we were to leave the room immediately. I know sometimes children hear and see somethings that are inappropriate, but if you train your child to respect their elders and themselves I think you will have a well rounded child on the road to becoming a respectful adult.
I am the grandma that is referenced in this article and I believe that what a child sees is what the are likely to do or say. I was raised by an old school mother and when adults were talking, we as children knew that we were to leave the room immediately. I know sometimes children hear and see somethings that are inappropriate, but if you train your child to respect their elders and themselves I think you will have a well rounded child on the road to becoming a respectful adult.
I am the grandma that is referenced in this article and I believe that what a child sees is what the are likely to do or say. I was raised by an old school mother and when adults were talking, we as children knew that we were to leave the room immediately. I know sometimes children hear and see somethings that are inappropriate, but if you train your child to respect their elders and themselves I think you will have a well rounded child on the road to becoming a respectful adult.
I agree. I think you’ve done a great job! 😉
I agree. I think you’ve done a great job! 😉
I agree. I think you’ve done a great job! 😉
I am the grandma that is referenced in this article and I believe that what a child sees is what the are likely to do or say. I was raised by an old school mother and when adults were talking, we as children knew that we were to leave the room immediately. I know sometimes children hear and see somethings that are inappropriate, but if you train your child to respect their elders and themselves I think you will have a well rounded child on the road to becoming a respectful adult.
I am the grandma that is referenced in this article and I believe that what a child sees is what the are likely to do or say. I was raised by an old school mother and when adults were talking, we as children knew that we were to leave the room immediately. I know sometimes children hear and see somethings that are inappropriate, but if you train your child to respect their elders and themselves I think you will have a well rounded child on the road to becoming a respectful adult.
I, too, was raised by an old school mother. When I had children and began raising them the same way, all I heard was, “Girl, you can’t raise children like that no mo’!” Thankfully, I didn’t know any other way to raise them, so I set about doing what I’d been taught growing up. Things that were really based on sound Scriptural principles. The #1 house rule was, if you don’t hear me say it or see me do it, don’t bring it in this house.” We are our children’s first teacher. Children imitate what they see and they aren’t discriminating. I encourage you to be what you want to see in your children. They’re such precious gifts. It is increasingly difficult to parent in this day and time with children being bombarded with so many negative images and influences, but it’s so rewarding when you see your efforts paying off. (Compare 1 Samuel 17:58)
I agree. I want my children to be happy healthy respectful people so my husband and I create that type of environment for them. People always comment on how happy our children seem to be.
I agree. I want my children to be happy healthy respectful people so my husband and I create that type of environment for them. People always comment on how happy our children seem to be.
I agree. I want my children to be happy healthy respectful people so my husband and I create that type of environment for them. People always comment on how happy our children seem to be.
I, too, was raised by an old school mother. When I had children and began raising them the same way, all I heard was, “Girl, you can’t raise children like that no mo’!” Thankfully, I didn’t know any other way to raise them, so I set about doing what I’d been taught growing up. Things that were really based on sound Scriptural principles. The #1 house rule was, if you don’t hear me say it or see me do it, don’t bring it in this house.” We are our children’s first teacher. Children imitate what they see and they aren’t discriminating. I encourage you to be what you want to see in your children. They’re such precious gifts. It is increasingly difficult to parent in this day and time with children being bombarded with so many negative images and influences, but it’s so rewarding when you see your efforts paying off. (Compare 1 Samuel 17:58)
I, too, was raised by an old school mother. When I had children and began raising them the same way, all I heard was, “Girl, you can’t raise children like that no mo’!” Thankfully, I didn’t know any other way to raise them, so I set about doing what I’d been taught growing up. Things that were really based on sound Scriptural principles. The #1 house rule was, if you don’t hear me say it or see me do it, don’t bring it in this house.” We are our children’s first teacher. Children imitate what they see and they aren’t discriminating. I encourage you to be what you want to see in your children. They’re such precious gifts. It is increasingly difficult to parent in this day and time with children being bombarded with so many negative images and influences, but it’s so rewarding when you see your efforts paying off. (Compare 1 Samuel 17:58)
LOL!! It is so true, you really do have to “watch your mouth” around toddlers. LOL! And of course, the will always repeat stuff when you least expect it!
I have a 3 year old daughter and she repeats everything I say! lol I have to be on my job, because if she get in front of the church saying crazy things, everyone would look at me. She copies everything I do, from attitude to nail polish.lol She went over to my sister’s for 3 days. My sister returned her at church and as soon as the choir started to sing my daughter dropped to the floor and touched it. My sister who is a minister was embarrassed. lol So, we have to mindful of what we do and say around our children at all times. Because we are their biggest role models.
I totally agree. I was so embarrassed at the doctors office when one of the triplets started yelling across the room to a doctor “Get yo butt over and sit down!” I wished I could have disappeared! lol
It’s not as so much watching your mouth as well as facial expressing…The world is consist around words,but your child is a connected around you as parents,When i’m around my children’s it’s like being at bible study ,they’re focus on every word that leave my lips,then i’m panicing cause they’re really listening.Just be careful watch everything,the tone of your voice,that really getting they attention…All i’m saying,Think before opening your mouth,then you want have to continual saying i’m sorry or just feeling bad..As parents,we’re being monitor,by our children’s from the time they enter this world,cause we’re they mentor…..Don’t get me wrong,i have lose the control of my tongue,over and over again but with time and accepting God in my life,it have gotten better,as i much say,cause i have a problem with closure,must have the last saying…
You’re right facial expressions and body language can play a part in all that our children pick up on. So I try to watch everything I’m doing around my kids. Sometimes it can be nerve racking and I sip up but…