For the record, single life was treating me well. I didn’t feel I was missing anything in my life. I think that’s what makes this union so great. We were whole people when we came together. We help each other, not out of necessity but because we want to. We want to see each other succeed. We are going to another level because we make each other better. Here are some of the reasons I decided to get married:
1. We Complement Each Other
I can’t tell you how many times I have had some issue that didn’t make sense to me that my mate was able to figure out. I have a marketing mind and filled with ideas, so where she may need some assistance in that area, I’m able to assist. She’s detail oriented, I’m big picture. Where I may miss being detailed at home on a project or something else, she helps to make sure I dot the I’s and cross the T’s. I help her to see what the ultimate goals of our projects are. Even as we plan our wedding, she’s managing the details of the budget and I’m making sure the projects get completed. We complement each other in ways I never imagined possible.
2. I Want to Make Her Happy
There is a degree of selflessness which I always thought I possessed. In my case, especially as a parent, I feel like I would do anything to see my daughter fulfilled and grow to be the woman she is destined to be. This is true, but being in touch with someone you love really exposes a different sense of purpose in one’s life. While I believe it’s true that I can’t be the ultimate source of her happiness, I’m certain that I can be a source of many joyous events, occasions and normal days in our lives. When she’s not happy, I’m not happy so it’s imperative to me to change the mood and make her day better.
3. She’s Part of the Family
I have two children, but this thought applies specifically to my youngest child. She lost her mom a few years ago, yet she is a fun-loving, free-spirited individual who is about as giving and caring for others as any little girl you would meet. She has always wanted to be a part of a family and she deserves to see what that looks like. The biggest problem with being a single parent is not that single parents can’t raise their children (single moms and dads do it every day); it’s that the child doesn’t get an example of what it’s like to be raised in a household with both parents. Often that example becomes the norm for the child and it’s what the child gravitates toward when it’s their turn to become parents. We have to end these cycles and show our children that we can having loving, two-parent households in our communities.
4. I Love Being With Her
I can definitely say that I enjoy spending time together and doing things for each other. I don’t have to decide who to call if I want to go out. I don’t have to think about who I want to go on vacation with, go to the park or the mall with. Simply enjoying another’s presence really fulfills a need I never knew I had. Sometimes just being in the moment and sharing with someone who means so much to you is priceless. No matter how society tries to frame it, sharing a life together is very cool!
5. She’s So Awesome!
There probably are not words reflective in the English language of how much I truly love and cherish my soon-to-be wife. Beyond that, she is simply awesome! We enjoy similar movies, we like to travel, and we enjoy similar climates and getaways. She believes in me when I don’t believe in myself. She loves my daughter and relishes the role of mother. She can provide a listening ear or great advice. I’m not naïve to the fact there will be tough moments, but I’m excited about the fact that there will be many years of fantastic partnership and friendship with my mate!
Marriage should be a well-thought out and carefully considered decision. If you find someone that meets many of these traits and others, go for it! Great marriages empower us to become even greater individuals!
Anonymous says
I like how the author said that single life was treating him well and that he and his fiance were whole before they joined together…neither one of them were needy. That is sooo important. May God bless the both of you and your family.
Jay Hurt says
I appreciate your heartfelt comments!