A lot of my single peoples ask me, “how do I find a good man” or “how do I find a good woman”? And my answer is always the same “boring” answer of “pray on it”. I call that the boring answer because people want me to give them a sure shot recipe like: “catch the 6 bus to Broad and Olney, then get on the 1st car of the express train going to City Hall and the dude sitting 3 chairs from the conductor’s booth, he’s the one.” If only finding the right person to marry was that easy. See, when you’re praying on something, you need to have patience. And in 2013, that’s something a lot of people don’t have…but we need it IF we wanna find the right person.
I’d rather be patient in finding the right person, than having to live through the hell of picking the wrong person. First things first, I know not everyone wants to hear this, but not everyone is called to be married. The same way everyone isn’t called to have children. But both are things most people want, so we move heaven and earth to get them and we don’t care about God’s plan for us.
We just brody our plan into effect. (Brody is philly slang for “get in front of” or “to take.” For example, “That cat just brodied me for my place in line”)
But I’ve learned from playing this game of life for 39 years that God’s plan is better then mine.
So single men and women out there who want to be married, PLEASE I beg of you, pray to God for who your mate should be and wait for HIM to give you the ok, not your best friend, father, mother, etc. That right there is Kil’s sure shot way to find a mate, cause you’ll NEVER go wrong with God’s plan! Trust me on that!
If you are waiting to find a good man, and you want to do it God’s way, then….you (the female) should not be looking , he should be looking.
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
Proverbs 18:21-23
And you know that saying, “In order for man to get to a woman’s heart, he must first go through Christ”….well, I am finding it to be the other way around with him! In order for me to get to him, I must first go through Christ…..And it is so beautiful!!
Miss Brenda.I respectfully disagree with you on the first paragraph of your response.Now,first off,there is Nothing at all biblically that states that a woman cannot search for a man.You cannot find it in scripture anywhere.Yes,we know that the bible states as said in Proverbs 18:21-23 about Whosoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favor of the Lord.However,many of God’s people are very unlearbed and don’t really understand certain things in the Word at all.I’m going to get to my point.Yes the man is to search and look but,do you say that all the Godly women who are on Christian or Non Christian dating sites are wrong and shouldn’t be on there?If so,Why???Many God Fearing women have been found either by being on these sites or simply just striking up a conversation with a man who later became their husbands.God has many ways of connecting us if we would comply.Jesus makes things simple.We make this situation and others so difficult and complicated.
Glad I never followed that idea, which I believe is a misinterpretation of that verse anyway. Celebrating three years of marriage this month, a beautiful son, loving extended family and a great church family. My husband thanks me all the time for “looking”, or else he never would have found me!
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Eachl tym i pray to my God, i run short of words to tell him nd usually find myself yarning, i need help please.
m talking about is the love connection that can happen through online
dating sites and chatting rooms or software such as
ICQ, MSN or MIRC. Before you go to the local grocery store to try and pick up hungry bachelors or bachelorettes in the produce section, consider online dating.
Security and safety is always a concern, especially for women.