I’m sure you’ve heard of make-up sex, honeymoon sex, morning sex, and lunch break sex. But have you heard of after-worship sex? Yes, you read it correctly. After-worship sex.
I didn’t make it up. God did.
As I’ve written before in “The Blessing of Marital Sex,” God wants husbands and wives to experience ultimate pleasure with each other. Sex is a gift that should be opened and used regularly. And, because it’s done in the context of holy matrimony, as opposed to a non-covenant relationship, God blesses it.
Worship blesses a couple’s sex life, too. For some women, seeing their husbands pray, preach, or praise God just does something to them. I’ve been told, and experienced for myself, wanting to make love more, feeling more attracted and free. I’m not sure if it is the same for men, but there is a definite connection between worship and sex. Sounds weird, doesn’t it? That’s what I thought until I read God’s word for myself. Check out 1 Samuel 1:19.
“Early the next morning they [Elkanah and Hannah] arose and worshiped before the LORD and then went back to their home at Ramah. Elkanah made love to his wife Hannah, and the LORD remembered her.”
To get the full context of this verse, read the entire chapter. For the point I am making here, notice these two things. First, Hannah and her husband worshiped together, which means they were on one accord spiritually. Second, it says, after worship they went home —not to eat Sunday dinner, not to watch the ballgame, not to take a nap ““but they went home and made love.
Worship must have been real good that day. I imagine Hannah and her husband didn’t even hang up their church clothes before they jumped into bed--if they made it to the bed!!
After-worship sex can be a blessing to your marriage when done with the right motives. God must come first, and growing together as a couple must come second. Hannah and her husband were in love. They worshiped and prayed regularly. Their spiritual life was important to them. Together, they sought God, which, in turn, made their marriage and sex life stronger. Because they were on one accord spiritually, they could be on one accord physically.
If after-worship sex is new to you, consider adding it to your list. There’s really nothing to lose yet so much to gain.
BMWK, what are your thoughts about after-worship sex?
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Ronnie_bmwk says
I think that we will try this for sure!!!! But we will have to put the kids down for a nap first 🙂
I do love my husband that much more when we pray and worship together…it takes us to another level of intimacy. And it makes me happy that my husband is spiritually covering our family.
Anonymous says
What a blessing to have that covering. I feel you sis. BTW, my daughter has a mandatory nap on Sundays. LOL.
Dr. Michelle says
Oops. That was me. Pushed enter too quickly.
Keshia says
Great post!!! I am not yet married and waiting for God to bring the right person at the right time. The wisdom on this site CHALLENGES me to draw closer to God. Thank you for all you do 🙂
Dr. Michelle says
Wonderful Keshia. You will be ready when your time comes!!
Melinda says
No doubt, after-worship sex is good. My husband and I have experienced it quite often. And spirituality does bring you closer to your mate.
Great post!
Dr. Michelle says
Thanks Melinda.
tajor9 says
Great article. I’m newly married this is surely going on the list.
SHARON SULLIVAN says
Amen ,I am one of those women that when my husband praises and let down all of his wall and allows himself to be overwhelmed with the Holy Spirit .It is a turn on like no other.Afterward we seem more intimately connected Ican’t quite explain it but I know the whopee (lol) loving making is like fireworks .I love it .Thankyou for confirming it with God’s word.
DIONNE says
This should not even have to be said.
Stacy says
I bless God for this article! My husband and I look forward to this time of “fellowship” after he preaches! Thank you!!!
LaWanda says
Right On!
ShayneDH says
The wife and I never titled it…but for years…after church on Sunday is when we make love the most 2 or 3 times. If we didnt have 3 boys, I know it would be more….just something seeing my wife, be a Woman Of God…and worshiping Him…is so attractive. So yes…it’s the same for men….at least this one.
Domonique says
This article was enlightening and I always thought something was wrong with me for wanting to jump on my husband after he comes off the alter, and he has told me when I minister he is captivated …. so I guess it is ture for guy. But thanks for putting the word on it!!
kita b. says
wow! you guys broke that all the way down. *stop being nasty* in my Mr. Brown voice lol. J/k but this is refreshing to me and it lets me know there are a million ways to get turned on. I love it!!!!
Lis says
Lol @ Kita B. Those were my first thoughts. (But, God ordained sex) This article almost makes me want to marry…lol. Good food for thought. 🙂
jd says
Wow, I’m floored. I had no idea.
Anthony says
Worship truly opens you and your mate up, in a very real way. Seeing her chasing after God and praising Him, is an aphrodisiac like no other. I often think of what life in the Garden of Eden must have been like! 😉
Dr Michelle says
So true. Great to hear a guy’s perspective.
Dionnea Seals says
Great article! Single and waiting…looking forward to having an amazing time with man after worship! 🙂
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Tracy says
sooooo true
Ms. J. says
I thought something was wrong with me. After my prayer and worship time with God, there would be times when I would I have an urge to make love to my husband. WOW, thanks so much for sharing.
Pastor's Wife says
As the wife of a pastor, I must agree with this article. After he yields himself to the Lord and ministers the word, prays for the elderly members and greets everyone, I feel so connected to him. I think to myself, what an honorable man. I just love him so and cannot wait to express it! He seems to feel the same way after watching me exhort the people of God and lead them into worship. Sunday afternoon and evening intimacy is the absolute best.
Dajovan says
It has been a routine thing for my hubby and I. I definitely didn’t know it had a name either. I can truly say it’s great.
Kristin says
Indeed it is a complete turn on to see a man of the Most High in total submission in worship!…this makes since completely! Waiting for my warrior king to fully understand through experience 😉
Rev. Chilln says
I sent a link to this blog post to a few preacher friends of mine to get their reactions. Below is 1 of the responses I received back. I apologize in advance for the length BUT there is a GREAT LESSON to be learned for all of us in his response…CONTEXT RULES.
His response:
I am certainly an advocate for intimacy AFTER worship AND early “Sunday Morning Surprise†intimacy! Works for us quite well! Lol! But, using this text as justification is so far off, its ridiculous.
1.) They went up to worship ONE TIME a year, over the course of several days.
a. We go to worship EVERY SUNDAY.
2.) She said, “after worship they went home –not to eat Sunday dinner, not to watch the ballgame, not to take a nap –but they went home and made love….Worship must have been real good that day. I imagine Hannah and her husband didnt even hang up their church clothes before they jumped into bed–if they made it to the bed!!â€
a. Ummm, they were on a ROAD TRIP many miles, on beasts of burden to get “HOMEâ€. Of course they didnt go to dinner, watch a game or take a nap. They ATE of their sacrifice after giving to the priests, then got on the road home. Who knows how long it took them to get there without getting out a map & studying it.
b. And, they didnt jump right into bed when they got home from “worship serviceâ€. The man had two wives, with most likely two different houses. LOL! They got back to where they lived. They got settled and, he lived with, stayed with Hannah. AND OVER TIME made love to THIS wife whom he loved.
c. Hannahs prayer wasnt answered immediately. There is a serious span of time between when they finished Worshipping, when they arrived back home, and when he lay with his wife. While the events themselves are sequential, they did not occur in rapid-fire succession. They made love because thats what husbands and wives that live together do as a regular part of their marital relationship – NOT just after church!
d. Imagine how worn out WE are after preaching/teaching and driving home 10 minutes in our own town. THEN, imagine how youd feel after preaching, then driving 15 hours, with your two wives, a bunch of kids, your servants & their kids, other family members & their kids. In my Sweet Brown Voice, “Aint nobody got time for dat!â€
Im done! LOL! This is why its so dangerous to preach/teach/blog about ONE verse in isolation. Its called proof-texting: finding a piece of TEXT to PROVE your hypothesis or personal agenda WITHOUT regard for the actual context of the scripture. I can prove ANY point I want to using the Bible out of context. Its easy.
Bottom line, for me, YES, seeing MY spouse in worship is arousing – and she says the same about seeing me. YES, after-worship “WORSHIP†is great, when it is also practical. But, if Im sweaty after preaching, HONGRAY because we didnt stop to eat, the bedroom is a mess because we were throwing clothes around late for church, the kids are begging for food because the communion cracker was just a tease, AND the game is coming on… “Aint nobody got time for dat! I got bronchitis!!!!â€
Anonymous says
Lol- Rev. Chilln is hilarious. Great imagery!
Linda says
Thanks for your honesty and humor. My hubby and I have been married for over 31 years and involved iin ministry for 34 years. You are so right on. Sexc with a Godly spouse isn’t perfect or always convienient but IT IS SO HARD
Anonymous says
What is worship?
The act of showing respect and love for a: the act of showing respect and love for a god especially by praying with other people who believe in the same god : the act of worshipping God or a god
: excessive admiration for someone
Why might it help with a couple’s sex life?
Because they are already similtaneously at a spiritual level of respect and love towards God. They are at a greater level of unity with the creator of the universe which can easily overshadow their spouse. Thus, making the union of worth-ship (making love) between husband and wife less selfish, more tender, respectful, and filled with love.
It makes sense! Try it, or don’t try it. Why debate it? Church people can be so annoying sometimes.
Me says
Good article!
Me says
What is worship?
The act of showing respect and love for a: the act of showing respect and love for a god especially by praying with other people who believe in the same god : the act of worshipping God or a god
: excessive admiration for someone
Why might it help with a couple’s sex life?
Because they are already similtaneously at a spiritual level of respect and love towards God. They are at a greater level of unity with the creator of the universe which can easily overshadow their spouse. Thus, making the union of worth-ship (making love) between husband and wife less selfish, more tender, respectful, and filled with love.
It makes sense! Try it, or don’t try it. Why debate it? Church people can be so annoying sometimes.
Superwife says
My husband and I do this from time to time and it is amazing the connection we have in the spirit and in the body.
Anonymous says
God ordained sex but I don’t think sex and worship should
Have anything to do with each other. This article is a little weird and random
Omi says
When you learn that sexual energy and creative (spiritual)energy are one and the same, then you begin to realize the purpose of sex- to heal and manifest- Tantra. Enjoy!
Gil T says
Sex has always been a spiritual experience for me and my wife. I am quite fond of saying that the very first commandment…, the very first thing our Heavenly Father uttered to us according to the Holy Bible was in essence be fruitful and multiply and subdue the earth, and my wife always says that’s the one commandment most people don’t have trouble following! lol But seriously, for myself worship opens up my soul and allows me to enjoy my faith in God and my appreciation for His Love and Grace and also allows my spirit a temporary sense of freedom (we are, after all, at war see Ephesians 6) and I more openly crave life and love and beauty and my wife. Indeed, some of our most passionate, and unquestionably, our most truly intimate moments have been after worship when we both felt most evidently of one accord! Praise God Almighty and His Divine Wisdom and Love. I often pray Thank You Father for giving us flavors and taste buds, for giving us colors and beautiful eyes to appreciate them with, thank you for giving me a deep and meaningful appreciation for beauty and so much of it to appreciate, especially in my wife. In Jesus’ Name; Amen!
Dr Michelle says
Very beautiful. Thanks for sharing that.
Stacey says
At a marriage retreat some years ago, I made the comment that you know it’s real when you can listen to gospel music and be able to enjoy your spouse physically. The appreciation is truly deep as we share such intimate moments after church and even sometimes as we listen to the gospel music station GLORY. Creates a deeper bond. Thanks for opening this discussion.
DrMichelle says
Thanks Stacy. That was the point, to open discussion.
Karen says
I was told to do my homework, preparation brought about great results. Well as a believer and the wife of a minister, this same message was given me concerning a healthy sex life with my husband. I wholeheartedly agree with intimcy after worship, however I think it even better before he goes out to minister, especially when I can’t be with him. We call it laying on of hands sex… I lay hands and minister to him before he goes out to minister and the Lord God touches him in a mighty way because he’s free to give his all to God and there’s no reason to be distracted, Smiles.
Thank you for the information and discussion… we need to hear more about what God has to say about a covenant/ married sex-life for the believers and beyond.
Linda says
Thanks for your honesty and humor. My hubby and I have been married for over 31 years and involved in ministry for 34 years. You are so right on. Sex with a Godly spouse isn’t perfect or always convenient. However it is SO good.
Chiquita Swanson-Robinson says
Hi thanks so much for these topics Rod and I sit down and read them together. Even though he doesn’t get to go to church like he wants because of the work he does we still like to read the bible together. I like this topic and I like reading your messages after reading it we couldn’t do anything but smile. Thank you.
Matthew Fudge says
OK, I’ve NEVER heard of this one before.
toyboy says
My minister and I always have great sex after worship, he is so horny and always wants it after he’s done his preaching! He pays me well too, he’s a bit rough up my bum but the money’s good so I don’t complain. What I don’t understand is that he says being gay is wrong, but we do the horizontal dance every Sunday afternoon so I’m thinking is he a hypocrite or something? Anyway I LOVED the blog Dr Michelle!
P.S. What are you a doctor of?
Handyman says
You oughtta try before worship sex! Even better!
Tim says
The best part of this article? “God must come first.” I always knew that imaginary guy would be greedy in bed…
Lilth says
If you DO read the context of 1 Samuel 1:19, it is about Hannah’s petition for a child, the child that grows up to be Samuel. The point in mentioning the sex is to give an account of the fact that after Hannah prayed for and was given the promise of a child (12 – 18) by Eli the priest, she and her husband had sex and, bingo-bango, she got pregnant. It has nothing to do with “after worship sex” and there is no indication the sex followed worship so closely that “they probably never made it to the bed”. Talk about fantasizing your own experience into a passage.
Oh God, yes! says
Has anyone tried “instead of worship sex”? It’s so much fun, and as a bonus, you don’t even need to drag your ass out of bed on a weekend to get lectured at for being human!
Yikes. says
Nothing like worshiping a genocidal, human sacrificing, eternally torturous, and impotently angry make-believe deity to make me wanna do the no pants dance with the missus.
Young ministers wife says
My husband is very aroused after preaching… I thought it was odd but I
suppose its just part of the human experience…
SistaKim says
Yes. A resounding YES!
Negus says
Can’t believe people wasted time trying to debunk this. The moral of the story is…HAVE SEX WITH YOUR SPOUSE! Folks are so uptight! Get over yourselves and go please your mate! SMH
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