Sis, it's time for you to get your life. As a smart, successful sista, it's so easy to get stuck in a rut: You work 40-70 hours per week. You give money, time and advice to your family and friends. You serve on every committee for your church or charity (and you feel guilty if you even think about saying no). You fight for justice and become the voice for the … [Read more...]
Relationships 101: 3 Reasons You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Jealous Feelings
It's called the green-eyed monster for a reason. Jealousy changes you, especially when you're in a romantic relationship. You'll find yourself doing things you'd never thought you'd do when you suspect your partner may be attracted to someone other than you. Anger, fear, and insecurity are the cousins of this powerful emotion and so many of us have been taught to avoid jealousy … [Read more...]
4 Ways Your Relationship With Your Mama Is Affecting Your Relationships With Men
We hear a lot about "daddy issues" and how a father's presence (or lack thereof) can affect your future romantic relationships. But quiet as it's kept, the mother-daughter relationship can have as much or an even greater impact on who you choose to date and marry and how that relationship develops. Think about it: What did your mama teach you about men and marriage? Did … [Read more...]
One and Done: 4 Tips that Guarantee You More Second Dates
Do you dread dating because you can't figure out why men lose interest after the first date? Do you wonder why these guys come on strong when they first meet you and then flake when they say they'll call you again? Are you confused and wonder if you're "The First Date Queen" who can't get into a relationship because you're just not attractive enough? If you answered yes to … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: 7 Steps to Attract a New Relationship in 2017
You wrote it down on your New Year’s Resolution, decreed and declared it, and created a vision board for it. But it’s the end of the year, and you still didn’t attract that new relationship. You don’t have to give up on your dreams for a healthy, happy relationship. You need to combine your faith with an easy-to-follow plan. Here are 7 easy-to-follow steps to attract a new … [Read more...]
Singles: 4 Ways to Guard Your Heart and Still Remain Open to Love
A woman went on a great date with a man she’s been seeing for the past two months. After dinner, they went back to his apartment to watch a movie. She felt really cozy sitting next to her man on the couch, when all of the sudden, he looked at her and said: “I need some space.” She freaked out! Her mind began to race as she thought about all of the things she could have done … [Read more...]
3 Mistakes Nice Guys Make on a Date That Land Them in the Friend Zone
As a matchmaker, part of my job is to collect feedback after I send a couple out on a date. I'll ask each person to give me their honest opinion and impressions of the location of their meeting, the confidence level of their date, and whether they felt any physical attraction for he other person. I'm often shocked at the small mistakes men make on a date, which can make the … [Read more...]
Insecure Season Finale Gives 2 Brutal Relationship Lessons for Men And Women
WARNING: If you've still yet to watch the season finale of Insecure, there are major spoilers in this article. Who knew this would turn into such a debate? If you watched the season finale of Issa Rae's breakout hit HBO show, Insecure, then you know why everybody is talking about it. Within a week of the finale's first airing, social media sparked a debate about … [Read more...]
A Ring Won’t Make It Right: 3 Heart Wrenching Reasons to End Your Engagement
"He's not your only option." I was shocked to hear my (ex)-fiancé's mother tell me this advice when I opened up to her about some of the problems we were experiencing in our relationship. To tell you the truth, I was hoping she'd tell me how to change him or offer to give him a good talking to herself. Instead, she told me what I didn't really want to hear. "I know you … [Read more...]
If The Only Men Attracted to You Are Old Enough to Be Your Father, You Must Do These 3 Things
Alright girl. Here’s the deal: You can’t control who is attracted to you. But, when you notice that you have a pattern of attracting men who are old enough to be your father (or grandfather), there's a chance that there may be something you're doing, which is causing these frustrating dating results. As a dating coach, I've worked with some women in their 30s who only seemed … [Read more...]
The Very BAD Advice Pastors Give That’ll Keep You Sad, Single and Searching
In an explosive article on the Washington Post, writer Janelle Harris brought up a topic that many single Christian sisters have only dared whisper in their prayer closets. In the piece entitled "Pastors tell black women to be passive and wait for love. I don’t believe in that," Harris tackled head-on the message preached to women in many churches around the world that women … [Read more...]
5 Terms You Need to Know If You’re an Online Dating Newbie
When you’re getting back on the dating scene, online dating culture can make you feel like you need to have Urban Dictionary by your side just to communicate. What does it mean if he asks you out for a meet and greet? Is that the same as a date? Why don't men call anymore? Is everything supposed to happen on text? What do you do if he just disappears? As a result, online … [Read more...]
Girl, You’re the Emotionally Unavailable One! 3 Signs That It’s YOU not Him
There are big myths about women and men that can get in the way of a real connection. For example, women tend to expect men to initiate a first phone call within 24 hours, and if they don't, the sisters assume the men are just not interested. Men, on the other hand, may wait a few days before calling because they don't want to look like they're a stalker or too thirsty … [Read more...]
Stop Wasting Time with Duds; Here’s How to Pick a Dude Who’s Marriage Ready
You know what you want. But do you know what you need? I ask all the women whom I consult this question. It’s clear to me that most women, who find themselves stuck in a pattern of choosing men who break their heart over and over again, don’t know how to discern husband material from the heart breakers. They’re drawn to the wrong qualities, which attract them to toxic … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: 3 Undeniable Signs You’re With The Right Man
"I was speechless," she told me. "I'd never had a man tell me this before. I think he's The One!" She couldn't hear me sigh, but I needed to take a deep breath before I told this sister that she was about to make a costly relationship mistake. She was getting excited about a few words a man, whom she'd just met online, was telling her, and she had already begun imagining … [Read more...]