Has this ever happened to you? You meet a man (maybe using a dating app) and you have great conversation. He sends you text messages every day and he calls you every night for a week. He then says, "We should get together on Saturday," and he tells you about one of his favorite restaurants and how he'd love to take you there. You say, "it's a date!" But when the weekend rolls … [Read more...]
3 Times It’s OK to Let Your Guards Down and Be Vulnerable in a New Relationship
I get it: You're suffering from PTLD (Post Traumatic Love Disorder). You opened your heart. You loved hard. You went all in. And then it happened: You were abandoned. Rejected. Hurt. Disrespected. Heartbroken. You're "over it" now, you've forgiven the other person and you're moving on. But deep inside, you're still struggling to drop your guards when you meet someone new. … [Read more...]
Ladies, If You Meet This Kind of “Nice Guy,” Block Him and Run!
Have you ever dated this man? When you first met him, he seemed like the quintessential gentleman (with a touch of swag). He's sweet, showers you with compliments, and communicates with you consistently. But there's a dark side to this "nice guy," and if you stay in a relationship with him, it could lead you to pain. I call him "Mr. Angry Nice Guy," and there are 5 signs to … [Read more...]
3 Ways To Deal With the Pressure to Get Married Without Losing Your Mind
"I just came here to find a husband." That's the sign Ayana Evans wore to a party she attended a few years ago. The picture she posted on her Instagram, shows her standing on the balcony, scanning the crowd below, with a sign taped on her back. One might think she was being desperate or thirsty by being blunt about her purpose for showing up. But in an interview with The … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Get Out of Your Dating Dry Spell
According to Neil Clark Warren, the founder of the dating site eHarmony, over 50% of all singles in America have not had a date in more than two years. Based on my work as a dating coach, I've discovered that many singles aren't actively dating because they don't want to appear desperate or "thirsty." But when you go years without so much as a coffee date, you're the one … [Read more...]
5 Lessons You Must Learn From Your Bad Relationships, If You Want to Move On
"You know, looking back, I'm so glad he broke up with me!" she exclaimed. It was our last session, and my client was reflecting over everything she'd learned in just a few weeks of working together. She'd gone from no dates in 5 years, to 3 dates in one month! The biggest secret to her dating success was that she'd discovered how to learn the lessons from her past … [Read more...]
Ladies: Two Conversation Starters that Will Get Him to Ask You Out on a Date
Do you secretly feel awkward around men you find attractive because you just don't know what to say to them when they approach you? Does online dating feel like a chore because you don't know how to respond to all those "winks" and "flirts" that men send? Let me help a sista out by giving you the top 2 conversation starters my clients have used online and offline to help … [Read more...]
3 Things Women Hear When He Says, “We’re Just Friends” that Lead to Heartbreak
You are seriously dating a man (at least you think it's serious because you are giving him all of your time), but he tells you that you are just friends. What does this mean? Most importantly, what do you hear when he says this? (READ: What a Man Really Means When He Says He Just Wants To Be “Friends”) Most communication breakdowns happen between what a person says and what … [Read more...]
It’s a New Relationship: 7 Signs You Are Doing Too Much Too Soon!
When people hear that I met and married my husband in eleven short months, they often assume we had a whirlwind romance. The truth is, while we were madly in love when we got married, we used our heads to make a good decision. That out of control, head-over-heels feeling is amazing and it's one you should enjoy when you're in love. But you also want to use your head. If you … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Juice Up Your Online Dating Profile Without Lying
Wait! Before you decide to tell a white lie on your online dating profile, consider this: When you meet in person for the first time, that person will not trust you about anything moving forward. I know you think uploading pictures from 10 years ago when you looked really good in that blue dress won't matter, but to the savvy online dater who has already been through a … [Read more...]
He’s Mine! How to Avoid Breaking the Girl Code in Dating
What would you do if a guy at your church took your friend out on a date, but they don't hit it off and they decide to just be friends. A few months later, he meets you at a singles mixer and you discover there's a lot of chemistry between you both. He asks you out and you accept! Sisters come before misters. When your girl finds out, she's lit, but you don't understand why. … [Read more...]
What The #HurtBae Video Surprisingly Teaches Us About Cheating and Closure After A Breakup
In a now-viral video, Kourtney Jorge, asked her ex-boyfriend Leonard why he cheated. The video was a lesson in vulnerability as we watched Kourtney cry her eyes out when Leonard revealed that he had cheated with so many women during their relationship that he couldn't keep count of them. When asked why she forgave after catching him in the act, Kourtney replied, "You are my … [Read more...]
Fellas: 3 Wack Mistakes You’re Making on Your On-line Dating Profile
Fellas, fellas, fellas. Can we talk? I'm privy to a lot of the conversations you have about your frustrations with the ladies, especially your thoughts about the ladies who say there are no good men out there. Because as a matchmaker, men tell me all their secrets on a regular basis. (Ok, not all of their man secrets, but enough to get their player's card pulled!) I also … [Read more...]
Life After Divorce: The #1 Thing Women Need to Know In Order to Love Again
I could see the pain behind her smile. We'd never really said more than a few words to each other until now. After the birth of my son, I needed someone to help take my daughter to preschool and she agreed to help. She was the perfect person–full of energy at 8 am–and my daughter felt safe and happy with her. I knew she was a recent divorcee. After 30 plus years of marriage … [Read more...]
Ladies: 3 Signs You’re Being “Trumped” in Your Relationship
"He sounds just like my ex." This is what some domestic violence survivors said about then Republican presidential nominee Donald Trump in a Huffington Post article. Trump's lying, bullying and controlling behaviors during the debates were triggering bad memories of their abusive relationships and they couldn't believe he could even be considered a candidate for the highest … [Read more...]