When you think about power couples, people like President Barack and First Lady Michelle Obama most likely come to mind. Other power couples include Will and Jada Pinkett Smith, Jay-Z and Beyonce, Bill and Camille Cosby. Certainly, these couples have power and influence to do big things in our world, and all of them make it a point to help those less fortunate than themselves. But, you don’t have to be a big name or have a lot of fame in order to be a power couple. Everyday power couples, like Lamar and Ronnie Tyler, the founders of this website, are a classic example of harnessing the powerful partnership of marriage, not only to build a family but also to impact lives around the world through media.
You and your spouse (or future spouse) can be a power couple, too. It might not be as entrepreneurs or entertainers, but that doesn’t mean the impact you have in society is any less important. For example, my husband and I determine to be a power couple in the realm of community building through ministry and education. We know our lane (mission), stay in it, and work it diligently. It doesn’t matter if the world knows our name; what matters is if we are harnessing the power that God has given us as a couple to love each other and to impact the lives of others.
Here are few “power couple pointers” that work for me and my husband. I encourage you to add to the list and modify them to suit the unique qualities within your marriage.
- A power couple doesn’t take “power trips” and waste time arguing about who is in control.
- A power couple capitalizes off of each person’s strengths instead of focusing on each others’ weaknesses.
- A power couple can produce and build something together””whether a business, a home, a community service project, etc.””that not only benefits them but helps others.
- A power couple recognizes that they can do more, have more, and give more when they are working together as opposed to working individually.
- A power couple is not intimidated by other power couples. In fact, a real power couple learns from others and seeks mentors to help them grow.
- A power couple presents a united front as parents and refuses to allow the children to divide and conquer them.
- A power couple makes a plan, works the plan, and revises the plan as needed so that the vision for the marriage is realized.
- A power couple does the hard work necessary to work through marital problems and to learn from difficult circumstances.
- A power couple believes they have the perfect spouse even though their spouse isn’t perfect.
- A power couple serves as an example for other couples to learn how to be uniquely powerful in their marriages.
- A power couple places God and family in the center of their lives and protects their faith and loved ones from negative influences.
- A power couple recognizes that real power doesn’t reside in money, in careers, or in reputation. Real power resides in love.
I believe that God created marriage to be a powerful institution. It should not suck the life out of you or leave you feeling powerless. Instead, it should nurture and add to the power already within you. When this happens in marriage, you become a power couple that is unstoppable and unbreakable.
What are some other qualities of power couples? How are you harnessing the power in your marriage?