First, let’s talk about Eddie Murphy.
The actor is the father of nine children, who range in age from 3-months-old to 26. So he should be no stranger to raising a child. Then why does this quote bother us?
“I don’t change diapers … ’cause I would be horrible at it, and that’s not fair to the child,” Murphy said in a recent interview with Extra.
You mean to tell us in all nine kids, Murphy has not learned how to change his kid’s diapers? Who was actually born good at changing diapers to begin with? Like anything, it takes practice. And nine kids over 26 years should be plenty of practice, no?
Now, we’re sure Mr. Murphy is an okay dad as we are well aware that there is way more to raising a child than changing a diaper.
But we will offer some advice to Mr. Murphy and other fathers reading this: fatherhood like any relationship takes work. Saying you’re not “good” at something should never be an excuse to avoid growing in that aspect of your relationship…and, yes, that includes your duty to diaper doodie.
And while we’re on the subject of relationship “work,” another celebrity father has given us a little insight of the “work” it takes for growth in his relationship. Fellow actor Will Smith admitted in a recent interview with The Sun that he and his wife Jada Pinkett Smith have undergone marriage counseling.
“I’ve done a lot of marriage counseling,” Smith is reported saying to the British publication about how they’ve kept their marriage together despite troubles. “What happens in a marriage once you do counseling, the truth comes out…And you sit across from your wife and you’ve said all of your truth, and she has said all of her truth. You look at each other and you can’t imagine you could ever possibly love each other again now the truth is out.”
The Smith marriage has been a mainstay in the gossip circuit for almost the entirety of their 19-year union. Again, we never really know the real truth behind what goes on in this households, but we have to commend their decision to try marriage counseling.
— Jada Pinkett Smith (@jadapsmith) February 25, 2015
Counseling might not heal all wounds and/or set all paths straight, but it is work. And since Smith is a father, we think this is a powerful example to send to your children about the investment and effort it takes to grow in your relationship.
BMWK, do you fault Eddie Murphy for not changing diapers? Even if he pays a nanny to do it, does it make him any less an active father? Does the admission of marriage counseling change your perception of the Pinkett/Smith relationship?