News about a celebrity’s professional life isn’t enough. The media with its prying eye picks up on the private lives of celebrity couples too.
And I don’t know why, but the media loves celebrity romances. The celebrity romance just seems so alluring. Here they are—these gorgeous, wealthy and famous people who happen to be in love with other gorgeous, wealthy and famous people.
So whereas before, many people idolized these stars for their fame, wealth and beauty, now those same people are worshiping their romances, even hashtagging pictures of those celebrity couples with the popular tag #relationshipgoals.
So what happens when those relationships fail. When there was suspicion of trouble in Beyoncé and Jay-Z’s marriage, talk consumed the web. Heck, the recent Brangelina (Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie) divorce made more headlines than the presidential race or the police shootings. And some people were literally crushed when Nelson Mandela and Winnie Madela ended their relationship. But why?
I have my own opinions about the matter, and I’d like to share them here.
Three reasons we get into celebrity marriages and feel crushed when they fail
Everybody needs a hero
We want an example of a successful marriage to look up to. With the divorce rate being as high as it is, a positive example in marriage is welcomed.
Many of us grew up with poor examples of marriage. We saw divorce, fussing and fighting or a single parent raising the kids alone. So to see a positive image of marriage in the spotlight almost makes them a hero. Just like in the movies. When the hero dies we are disappointed. In this case, when a celebrity marriage dies we are disappointed.
False hopes and fake reality
Since we see famous marriages from a media point of view, our perception is skewed. We see what the media chooses to publish, which is often what the couple wishes to reveal.
Sometimes those perceptions look so glamorous that it’s easy to get caught up in the hype. From our perspective, we’re seeing what seems to be a perfect example of a healthy, happy relationship, when the actual version could be something completely different. Even if what we see is the truth, it is only a small piece of their truth.
The growth of social media has allowed celebrity couples to take back some of their power. Posting to their own page and sharing what they want to share has allowed us to feel closer to the famous. Seeing inside their lives, we feel like we really know them, even when we don’t.
President Barack and Michelle Obama, Beyoncé and Jay-Z, Will and Jada Smith, Denzel and Pauletta Washington, Angela Bassett and Courtney B Vance, they are marriage royalty in the public eye. Sure, we would be stunned if they ever divorced, however, truth be told, the next day our lives would go on as normal.
There is nothing wrong with having a marriage hero. It just needs perspective.
Money, fame, hairstylists and cameras don’t make marriage easier. If anything, it introduces more challenges. Please don’t think, “If these super beautiful, wealthy, smart people can’t make their relationship work, what hope do I have?” Celebrities have to invest in their marriage just like we do.
If something positive comes from having a celebrity marriage hero and doesn’t negatively impact your life, then go for it, do you!
Sure you can have a #RelationshipHero but #RelationshipGoals should simply be to aspire to have a happy, successful marriage.
BMWK, what do you think of having a relationship hero? Who is your relationship hero?