What were some of your biggest challenges that you faced early on in your marriage, and how were you able to overcome them?
Deborah: The way we started off was happy and in love, not knowing up from down. When the glamour wore off, the reality set in. It was like, ‘Oh, we need real jobs? You mean we have to pay a mortgage now and it’s not $200 a month anymore?’ I had actually left Jerome, for about two weeks. But Jerome’s mother said to me: ‘Deborah Mills: You better take your behind back home! You never open up your home for another woman to come in.’ I will never forget her saying that. But the biggest challenges were all the little silly things that start out small and end up becoming really big; things like putting the toilet paper on the roll right, or not unloading/loading the dishwasher correctly.
Jerome: Right around years 3, 4 and 5, for most couples is when all of that “pretty fluff’ wears off. You realize you actually have to live with this person, and that’s where it starts to be a challenge. Fortunately, my wife was constantly after me about us going to marriage counseling. My parents (who are Pastors now), were able to refer us to another couple who counseled us. The counseling was based on the bible, and it was through the counseling that I understood what marriage was all about, and how to have a successful marriage with God leading the way. That’s really what saved and sustained us. They taught us that we’re going to be more blessed by staying together than we could apart from one another.
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