Ran across an article that talks about how Facebook can incite jealousy in a relationship. The highly addictive social network can be a great tool for communication, networking and all other types of positive activities but when it starts to cause a problem in your relationship then you may need to pump your brakes. Researchers recently did a study on college students and this is what they came up with:
Here’s how Amy Muise of the University of Guelph in Ontario and her colleagues think the ugly green-eyed monster rears its head:
Student spends time on Facebook. He or she monitors the profile page of a significant other, finding ambiguous information about their partner that they otherwise may not have access to. This new information stirs up jealous feelings in said student, who then scours for more Facebook information that further fuels the fire.
This escalating cycle can become addictive, according to the new research published in the August issue of the journal CyberPsychology & Behavior.
The article goes on to talk about how the jealousy triggers are the same as before but now access to this information is just more readily available and out in the open for your significant other to see.
BMWK family we’re just asking that you don’t end up like the video below…
Tara says
That video had me rolling the other day! I might have even said a couple of those things…”Why is she always the first one to comment on your status?” LOL.
Harriet says
D-R-A-M-A
michele says
I am LMBO right now!!!! I have a facebook page, and my husband just created his. He swears up and down that I’m addicted to it. Now granted, some evenings I do spend more time on the computer than I normally do, but that’s only because I haven’t checked my page and there is a lot of responses that I hadn’t seen.
I’m not on there to meet other men. In my profile you can clearly see my relationship status: MARRIED. Now, on my husband’s profile…it’s blank?! IT’S BLANK???!!! I could start WWIII if I wanted to……:)
michele says
I really think there’s a double standard at times….it’s okay for him to have female friends but it’s not okay for me to have male friends.
Political Pete says
Man,
Myspace poses the same problem. I will say, it is difficult making the transition from single to not single and using social websites lol. I took a break for a while so things could “cool off.” You can’t control if someone writes on your wall
“Remember back when you used to rubbbb my feet?”!
I mean, before you can even check your page, 15 of your friends have text you like “Yo! Your ex from high school just blew up your spot on your wall son! Delete it immediately!”
Anna says
That was a mess. “You got 525 friends and when you turned 21 none of them were at the bbq”. Complicated, I’ll tell you complicated, when your mama borrows $20 dollars, every week. Too funny. I never completed my registration for facebook. I think anything can ruin a relationship if you let it. There are lots of social networks and we have to disapline ourselves to still make time for mates/spouses and live friends. LOL. My computer is in a common spot. I am always on it and can watch tv, interact with family and still surf the web while cooking. Ok, my name is Anna and I am addicted to the “world wide web. LOL. My family can see me while I am surfing. They can even see what I am typing.
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michele said:
I really think theres a double standard at times….its okay for him to have female friends but its not okay for me to have male friends.
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I agree with you on this. My nephew was over and got on his facebook and I saw hundreds of females. I told him I was going to tell his gf, he said she already knows. What up with that. I told him he was being disrespectful. Kids/ppl now and days don’t see it like that. They will comment away online but forget to communicate with the ppl in their household.
Ron says
The video was too funny. How many times have these conversations gone on in households all over the world! I think people do need to be mindful of their mate and how disrespectful some of these social networking sites can be to them. If you are online openly flirting with someone, how does that make me look? Like a fool, and no one wants to look like a fool.
Political Pete says
I would argue the opposite, facebook and online mediums ARE a good screening mechanism too. There have been plenty of times because of a little picture surfing seeing photos of a 30+ year old woman doing the doo doo brown at the club and holding a blunt… I have saved myself some headaches.
P.S. If somoene twitters or update their status messages with “I don’t need him no mo'”
That’s probably not one you wanna get with.
keeley says
what I find annoying is I cannot add good looking guys anymore as I will bombarded with questions as to where I know him where I met him