by Zara Green,
She/He is your EX for a reason! I’m not a bible-thumper but for these reasons this passage of scripture is so apropos,
As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly
- The act of the dog eating its own vomit is potentially poisonous
- Foolish acts/behaviors are often out of fear not intentional folly
And if they left you, you’ve got to question why you’d allow them back. “I love him/her” is NOT a sufficient answer. People go back to what they knew, even when it wasn’t good because they don’t know how to be alone and fear it. Time alone is purposeful. If you’re allowing them back then you’ve likely not used the time alone properly.
Embrace Time Alone….
Time alone is to review the last relationship for patterns in your selections and then to understand WHY you chose them to begin with. Not just what you liked about them, but also what voids in you they filled? When you can answer that, then you’ve identified YOUR deficits. And when you are aware and FIX THAT IN YOU, you can make your Next Decision Better.
That process won’t usually lead you BACKWARDS!
For your information: The scripture leading into Proverbs 26 says,
He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
And then the verses in Proverbs 26 leading up to the 11th & 12th verses are all about foolish behaviors
As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly. Seest thou a man wise in his own conceit? There is more hope of a fool than of him.
Don’t be a fool! Be wise.
Personal growth should never stop! Learn from every relationship. Take time between each one to learn more about you so that you can get better as an individual. Otherwise you run the risk of attracting and choosing the same kind of person, thus the same kinds of experiences and instead of getting better (with your choices and experiences), by default you’ll grow bitter.
You deserve better than that but you won’t get what you deserve necessarily, you’ll get what you choose and accept!
BMWK – You’re invited to Enter and LIVE in the Grown Zone.
Zara Green (ZaraGreen.com) is an author, speaker and trainer specializing in personal growth. She is best known for helping others to understand individual temperaments as a key factor of self love and productive life management in order to empower them to make their Next Decision Better™. Green enjoys enthusiastic and loyal social media followings on her personal Twitter and her collaboration with partner Alfred Edmond Jr, @GrownZone, plus their popular GrownZone blog.
Would this process be somewhat bias maybe the alone time made it clear leaving was premature or for the wrong reason maybe the leaving was the foolish mistake inmaturaity the key in using Gods word is to follow the Spirit of it & not just one passage but understanding the passsage in relation with the enntire bible Matthew 6:33 teaches ” seek ye 1st the kindom of God and His righteousness & all these things shall be added “all this allows us to understand that When we allow God to guide us back to our past marriage ie the entire book of Hosea speaks on again for a reason of forgivveness & Genesis 16 in the case of Hagar its clear in the case of growth in Gods understanding & relationship that leads one who does not want to follow in that same mind & pattern to not even leave unless the other leaves & rejecccts following 1st Gods word is a book of mercy, grace & not only 2nd chances but repeated mercies again not just following self growth & will but being LED by Him so as i agree self time alone time is importain in the interm I also believe the outcome should be in the use of Gods word to bring God glory
It takes time to heal and sometimes “I Love them” is sufficient enough to return.:-) (1 Cor 13).