AND THE WINNER IS….. MOM OF 3!!! WE’LL BE IN TOUCH.
We’ve discussed it a million times on the site and now is the time for you to see what all of the fuss is about. We’re giving away one copy of Steve Harvey’s book, :Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man to one lucky winner.
To enter just leave a comment telling us one thing the opposite sex should know about you. for example ladies give advice to men about women and men give advice to women about men.
Be sure to enter your email address in the appropriate field so we’ll have a way to contact you in return. A winner will be randomly selected next Wednesday. Good luck!
Xina Eiland says
The best advice I can give anyone man or woman is not to waste time in relationships that seem to be going no where. Often, we continue to invest in a dead end relationships and at the end there is no return. Be smart and listen to your inner instinct. If it looks like duck, walk like a duck, then it is a DUCK. Get out!
Tara Pringle Jefferson says
@Anonymous #2 – Yeah, I got that link e-mailed to me too, but there’s something about having the actual BOOK that appeals to me. Plus, I know the ghostwriter and I wouldn’t feel right. I’m a book nerd/purist! LOL.
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Anonymous says
Tara,
I AGREE!
I bought the book the day it came out, and I highly recommend it!
But, everyone who NEEDS it can’t afford it nor will they win it.
So..
The FREE link is for those people 🙂
Iesha says
The advice that I have to offer would be to put God first, then your immediate family then others. You would never want your spouse to think that he/she is not as important !
Mom of 3 says
My advice would be to just simply communicate. It is always stated that men and women shoudl communicate about their relationship, but sometimes in the shuffle of everyday life with kids, family, work, etc. couples don’t spend enough time communicating until a small problem turns into something huge. Women (some women) sometimes assume that when there is a problem, their mate automatically picks up on it, but that is not always the case.
nayonowen says
my advice is to touch even if you dont feel like it. when you walk pass him reach out and stroke his shoulder, hand or face. Constant contact keeps the fire flame lite. Remember to even do this when your mad. I’ve been married for 16 yrs and its hard but with the touch it keeps us connect.
African American Mom says
Mom of 3—- So right, communication! In this day and age it is crazy not to be able to communicate. We live in an email, text, blog, facebook, cell phone, myspace, twitter world. Our significant others should be able to be connected to us at all times!
I would also want the opposite sex to know that women are not simple and should not be treated as such. Complexity takes time and understanding.
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Anita Buchanan says
I have learned a few things in my 49 yrs on Gods planet. And one thing stuck more than any thing else.A man can only go as far as you let them. It was a hard lesson learned but well learned.
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Onetta says
The best advice I would give to anyone is that if you truly love the person that you are with, strive to bring “the best†out of them. If you are bringing “the best†out of that person and that person is bringing “the best†out of you, the growth you experience together is extraordinary and it strengthens the foundation on which the relationship is built on. I am going to share the email I sent to my husband this morning, responding to an email he sent to me.
We have both been impartly responsible for the others growth and you just became the man that you were destined to be. If anything, I brought out “the best†in you because you brought out “the best†in me. I admire you. You thoughtfulness has not gone unnoticed, you willingness to help others will be a quality that you will always be known for, and the unconditionally love that you give to me each and every day has and will forever touch my heart. I can not imagine a life without you in it. I can not imagine growing old with you not by my side. You are more than a diamond. You are this rare gem that every women is in search for, but only a few are blessed to find. I love you forever and ever and ever…
Christin says
Communication is by far the best advice…Put yourslef in the other person’s shoes:) Thanks!
christinbanda(at)yahoo(dot)com
Ashley says
She wants to feel special! Learn to spoil her just because! It doesn’t have to be extravagant…just something to show her she’s special!
King James says
Women, concerning relationships… you don’t always get closer. Many men don’t need the same kind of closer as many women so be sure not to spend too much time searching for it as it may not come.
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Nicco says
My advice to men is to always be honest and keep the lines of communication open with your mate/spouse/ or potential partner. Do not create a false illusion of what you really are searching for. If you are dating and plan on seeing different women and is not ready to settle down, express that. All women are not looking to settle down either; sometimes we just want a male friend to spend time with from time to time. If we know up front not to get too”involved” we can balance the feelings and resist the urge of getting too close or having unshared desires of progressing with you. For the men that are settled whether married or in a monogamous relationship; take time to do simple things to show your mate/spouse daily she is appreciated. It doesn’t have to involve over priced presents or diamonds but truthfully the little things (along w/ lavish gifts occasionally,lol) really do make us feel like the only woman in the world with a man so genuine and knowledgeable on how to treat us without having to be spoon fed everything like babies! 🙂
mindy says
never tell a woman that she reminds you of your mother strange visions run through out head thanks for the giveaway
michele says
The best advice I can give is to honor your marriage with your husband/wife. Honor and respect the vows you took before God, each other, your friends and family. Enjoy each other’s company, make time for each other (and I know that can be difficult especially with the hustle and bustle of everyday life). Me and my husband have five sons and sometimes it is near impossible to have quality time with each other, but we manage to squeeze it in. It’s important not to forget about each others’ needs. We’ve been together 14 years (married 11 of those) and I am still as attracted to my husband (if not more these days) than I was when we first met! Every day I have with him is another day to fall in love with him all over again. He is the head of our household, and I am his helpmate. It took me the first few years of our marriage to truly understand what that really meant. I think I’ve got it down now, but I’m still growing! I respect him as the man that he is, as my husband and best friend, and as my sons’ father. I have his back no matter what, and he has mine. AND he still makes me LAUGH out loud!!!
Kerlley says
My advice to the opposite sex would be the little things are the ones that count. You don’t have to do much to show you special lady you love her. Just sitting down and finding out her day was, going for a walk, planning a night out without her knowledge. Women are so easy to please, just do something that will show her you appreciate & love her.
KJU says
When you are dating someone do not beat around the bush about what you want and what you are looking for. Be up front about what you want out of the relationship so you both can either be on the same page or be on your separate ways. Why spend time in a relationship with someone who does not meet your expectations and then take it out on that person in the end just because they are not really the person you want to be with? Do not lead the other person on thinking they have a chance or that you think you can change them cause more than likely the problem lies with you and not them and not speaking up for what you expect.
Political Pete says
There is something refreshing about black folk bootlegging books! lol
Kelly Ann T. says
RESPECT, RESPECT, RESPECT!!!!
SANDY says
don’t push a person into a relationship- you cannot make people like or fall in love, and learn to let go and not hang
MissJay says
Advice to men about women….listen. I know its cliche but really listen. The little things do count so listening when we tell you what we love and things we’ve always wanted to do will come in handy to help you make them(us) feel like the only person in your world and heart. In turn we may remember that you don’t like to be bothered during the games and we’ll leave you alone, occasionally bringing you snacks of course ;).
Anna says
Great comments. My comment is for either gender. When you are married and share the same space you are not always going to get along. You can have a bad day but don’t bring it home. Take your mind back to why the two of you are together and got married. I can be at work sitting in my chair and someone has upset met. I think about my hubby and a smile happens. I am in another zone and forget about the rude customer that I almost let ruin my day. Just take the time to smell the roses and by me putting myself in “that zone” this technique extends to my husbands mood. Me and hubby debate. I can’t remember our last argument. The longer you are together the better you learn to disagree and keep it moving.
kim v says
The best advice I can give is that however a guy treats you in dating is the best he will treat you. He doesn’t get better if you get married.
Thanks for the giveaway!
Kimspam66(at)yahoo(dot)com
cheryl kellery says
Take time out for yourself – don’t be 24/7 we love to be with you but have our own interests and grow by being independent.
Mocha Dad says
To men, respect is more important than love.
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Jean says
I can not speak for all women but for me, trust is very important.
Sharon says
Embrace your differences example (movies,music etc) and communicate. Tnanks for the giveaway.
sharr1226 at yahoo dot com
Emilie S says
My advice is don’t waste your breath lying. You’re going to get caught and then it will be 100x worse…
Candice Houston says
This for the ladies,
If a man, doesn’t want to be with you, let him go. Move on! It’s not that serious.
Women you are GOD’s gift and so beautiful. There are other men, that will respect you and treat you like a lady. Stop selling yourself short.
Shay says
My advice to men is not to take the one they love for granted. It is hard nowadays with all that is going on in our lives, however that does not mean that you can just assume that your partner is happy. Ask how she is and really care about the answer. Do nice things to make her smile and never forget why she fell in love with you in the first place.
Valerie says
Communication is very important, without it there is no relationship
MyBrownBaby says
Thank you, Black and Married With Kids, for supporting my work, and most certainly for linking to the beautiful post Essence did on me and my co-writing experience with Steve Harvey. I really had quite a time writing that book, and I’m happy for every single person who’s taken the time to comment on the book–whether those comments were good or bad.
I have to address one thing, though, and that’s the PDF copy of the book that’s circulating throughout the internet. I have to say that any writer who has ever taken the time to create should be shaken to the core by what’s happening with the ILLEGAL transmission of this book. Hell, anyone who’s ever WORKED in their lives should be shaken to the core by the idea that somebody can simply come along, STEAL the blood, sweat, and tears you’ve put into that work, and then distribute it to millions of others FOR FREE, without any regard for you or what you went through to create that work. I’ve always had the back of musicians and filmmakers who, for years, have complained about bootleggers stealing their work; as an author, i could identify with them creatively when they said they felt like the bootleggers had robbed them. But folks never bootlegged books before. Too much work. But now that everyone and their mama has a scanner and wi-fi, authors are finally vulnerable, too.
@anonymous: The people who can’t afford the book and can’t win it here CAN go to the library to cop the book. Last I checked, library cards were free, and anybody can get one and use it. The people who are circulating my book around the internet are thieves, plain and simple. And really, they should be ashamed of themselves.
Denene.
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Anonymous says
I’m certain that Sharon Carson….
the ORIGINAL author with the title “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man” feels the same way you do(to some degree)!!!
However, you and Steve don’t have a problem pimpin’ her title and concept while profiting…so keep cashin’ your checks and stop trippin’!
*drops the mike and leaves the stage*….PEACE!
Tammy says
When momma’s mad, get out of the house!
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Rachelle in "Sowfsyd" Richmond, VA says
OMG I had no idea I got a pirated copy of the book. I got an email from a friend to check it out. I didn’t even realize it was an actual “book” until I printed it and damn near blew my printer up with the page count. I went online to find out more about the book and ran across this site. Now, I do feel bad. Even though I’ve printed the book, it’s not the same as actually having the book. So I plan to buy the book this weekend.
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Tembisa says
Saw it on Oprah and can’t wait to have my own copy, very true and very relevant especially in South Africa with the AIDS pandemic
zanele says
hey guys i so love the book i saw it on oprah and i was like wow what a book.big up you have done a fabulous job on the book ithink even the non readers will also agree with me that its a must read book.i believe it wont last even a month on the shelves soon it would be sold out.thats how good the rating is. my commment will go to the guys:
woman are very simple they just need you to listen ,love them and give them attention. now brothers ‘ATTENTION” is not just a simple word if you can master that you will never go wrongcause if you give your women attention you will know what makes her happy,sad,angry,tick ect.but girls in order to know your man you also have to give him attention so i believe communication also plays an important role.
Lamar says
CONTEST IS CLOSED: THE RANDOMLY SELECTED WINNER IS “MOM OF 3”
BEEN THERE BEFORE THE BOOK says
ALLELUIA!!!!!!!!!
BEEN THERE, DONE THAT. FINALLY IT ALL IN WRITING.
GREAT BOOK FOR YOUNG GIRLS BEFORE THEY START DATING
AND FOR WOMEN WHO ARE DATING.
GREAT BOOK STEVE HARVEY.
THE ER NURSE
R.N.
Ms. Renee says
Men,
If you have a Myspace or Facebook…or any other kind social account online, delete it, or hide it under another name or email address. One that is descreet enough for us (women) not to find….or if you have one and you do make us aware of it, do not put personal information on there. As your headline for Wednesday, don’t put, “Eating chocolate covered strawberries”, when your woman is at home and you aren’t there. That will just open a can of worms. Here she is wondering who in the hell you are eating those strawberries with, and it also leaves the conversation open for other women to comment on. This is the beginning of the biggest drama scene that you could ever imagine. Men, be smart in all of your approaches.
May May says
I have not read the book, but have been told its the most exciting book to read. My input about any relationship is to communicate that the most important thing in a marriage. How will you know what the other is thinking unless you talk about a situation. Some men think this also apply to women also when they have done wrong the BED is the answer WRONG my answer is sit down and talk about the problem and see what the end will bring.
May May says
May May have added another response. Men in general this also applies to women. I have been married twice, Once when I was nineteen didn’t know what marriage was about at that age, but I tell you what I have and always will be faithful to any man that I have. I am 56 years been married twice the husband I have now thinks he can do anything he pleases he wants me to stay at home and do nothing but work two jobs and pay all the bills. I had to come to grips I said I have a few more years here on earth, I am going to live to the fullest of my life. I tell all women don’t just settle for any thing that comes along always seek GOD for your guidience, it took me a while to see that but I am satisfied with the enviroment that I am in now.
Ms. Lake says
The only advise that I can tell that is different from the others is Men if you see something that needs fixing around the house fix it don’t wait until she asks you and for heaven sakes dont have her pay someone to do a job that you are capable of doing.
MS. VE says
Ms.VE WANTED TO SAY TO ALL YOU LADIES OUT THERE TRYING TO PUT ALL YOU CAN IN A MAN TO KEEP HIM: JUST STOP IT!!! YOU CAN’T PUT NOTHING IN A MAN, AND YOU MOST CERTAINLY CAN’T TAKE NOTHING AWAY FROM HIM,GO FIGURE.
Jo says
I was once told, “Don’t worry about the things you can not change, because you can not change them.” No women can change a man’s heart, only God can change any man’s heart…Not even if she is considered “a perfect women” a man will do what a man will do regardless of the fact on how good a women is…Now I am not saying a women can not “touch” a man’s heart by being a “good” women or being that humble and submissive wife…Ladies, listen when I say humble and submissive, that does not mean we have to be a doormat to these men, it’s just saying we are powerful in our place, and our place is on our knees (prayer) for that simple fact that ‘women can not change a mans heart’…God is over man, man over women and women over children…Please do not get me the wrong way…Men we are not your daughter we were already raised once so please do not raise us again but we are here to help you become a better man.
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Carllis Marks says
This is one thing that all couples need to keep in mind: How does someone know how you feel if you dont tell them. No one is a mind reader.
Carllis Marks says
I enjoyed the book. It’s a womans bible to relationships with men and I advise all women of all ages to read it.
neo says
the best advice to men is not to ignore your girls
it’s a disaster when your girl feels that she is just a toy in your hands to entertain with during your spare time. there is nothing called “ooooh sorry honey i was busy so i didn’t call, oh honey i forgot”
oooooooooh girls don’t like that at all
I can be a cat in front of the man who cares about me but I’ll be a lioness for the one who tried to play with my feelings
Mrs. Rivers says
Anonymous,
Can you PLEASE send me the link to get Steve Harvey’s book. I am one of those people who can not afford to purchase the book at this time. I have heard great things about his book. and I am dieing to read his book.
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Sincerely,
Mrs. Rivers