Picture this: after years of watching your best friend and your brother fall for all the wrong people, they finally fall head over heels in love with the right person – each other! It’s the type of story you only hear about on TV sitcoms or in the movies. Only for me, this happened in real life – my life. Yes, just last month, my best friend and older brother exchanged wedding vows in front of family and friends. It was such a beautiful day for so many reasons. The tears that were shed were definitely happy tears, reminiscing on the journey that got them to that very day.
My girl friend and I met in 2001 when we were in undergrad, and by 2002 we were nearly inseparable. Since we were on such a small college campus, it didn’t take long for us to build a friendship that would inevitably last a lifetime (little did we know just how the term “lifetime” would unfold). Not long after we graduated, we got our first apartment and moved in together. We were both so happy to just have our own space, and to be able to come and go as we pleased (sorry mom & dad!). In 2005, she honored me by accepting one of two roles as Maid of Honor at my wedding. I always knew I would return the favor for her one day. But I never imagined that it would also mean standing by my brother’s side as well. Even though I’ve actually had people say to me that they would never want to be in a similar situation as myself, I can think of plenty of reasons why I wouldn’t have it any other way.
For one, I can stop holding my breath. When my brother moved back to the east coast a few years ago, I started noticing that he was getting more and more invitations to certain things that my friend would normally invite me to. When asked, neither of them initially admitted that they had a thing going on, but I knew better than that (did I mention they dated several years before, and had always maintained contact/friendship?). I know my brother, and I know my friend. So my first thought was “Oh gosh, I really hope this all works out!” Let’s face it. The situation could’ve gone one of two ways: A) Happily Ever After, or B) A lifetime of excruciatingly uncomfortable family gatherings – for all of us. Well, thank GOD for the happily ever after! When I realized just how serious things were getting between them, I just remember praying that this would be the fairytale ending that they both wanted and deserved. I’ve never seen either of them so happy before, and it’s such a beautiful thing to see!
Their union of holy matrimony only made our sisterhood official. My sisters and other brother had thought of her as a sister, and my parents already thought of her as a daughter even before they got married. If there was a family function, she was almost always there. And if she wasn’t, then someone would surely ask for her. And now, every time we get together, it is truly a family affair. Holidays, birthdays, plays; regardless of what it is, we now get to share a lot more of those moments together. I know that if there is a family function going on, then my BFF will be there. We get to truly grow old together, and our kids get to grow up together in a way that is even more special. How awesome is that?!
Will there be/have there been some changes in the dynamic of our friendship? Yes. Will there be times when we can’t confide in one another? Sure. Times when we can’t seek out each others’ advice when it comes to certain matters? Absolutely. Does any of this outweigh the benefits? Absolutely not. There is nothing about their marriage that I can’t get excited about. When my BFF and brother got married, it was one of the happiest days of their lives. But I can honestly say that it was a pretty awesome day for me too.
BMWK: Tell us about your experience. Have you (or anyone you’ve known) experienced a similar situation with your best friend marrying your brother/sister? What made it a favorable or unfavorable situation?
This made me all misty eyed. I love it!
It’s ok T cause I still get misty eyed just thinking about it. lol 🙂
I LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *tear* *tear*
Thanks and so glad you do sis! XO! 🙂
Beautifully written! This love story truly demonstrated to me the Luganda saying “Mukama kyategeeka tekivunda” (literally- whatever God has prepared doesn’t spoil). This goes to show this in a very literal way and the beautiful and happy ending gives more joy to rejoice in this God who really does order our footsteps every day (whether we are aware of it at the time or not)…
Thanks so much Mary. You are 100% right about that. This was definitely a union ordained by God, and we’re so grateful for that.
What a beautiful story!! You are all blessed to have one another 🙂
Thank you Drea! We are definitely blessed indeed 🙂
Awww…that is an awesome love story ordained by God!!!
You got that right, Monica! Thank you so much! 🙂
Enjoyed reading this! It makes you want to read more.
Thank you so much Julia-Ellen!! I’m glad you enjoyed! I’m sure there may be some future follow up posts 😉
Awh…this is beautiful. It just goes to show that sometimes the best thing for us, the thing we’ve been looking for so ernestly for so long, can be right under our noses. It is really awesome how God works. They are beautiful together. God’s Richest Blessings to them both and to you as well. You’re turning me into a Facebook addict Chrissy….lol!
LOL! I can’t take all the credit for turning you into a FB addict, but am happy to know you’re hanging out with me 🙂 I completely agree. It is really awesome to see how God works things out for us! Thanks for sharing!
Congrats to all. Lovely!
Thank you so much, Chasing Joy 🙂
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Marrying your best friend might sound a little strange. But if you think about it, spending your life with someone who knows you inside and out, is a very nice choice.
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Ahhh such a sweet sweet story!!!
My best friend will be marrying my brother this year! I am the MOH and i am having trouble writing my speech… any suggestions!?
Hmm, just had a similar story to tell only difference is I hooked my best friend to my brother and they got married but sad thing is was I hoping to be asked to be a maid of honour or bride maid but was not and am not able to get over the pain of being left out and that caused me to withdraw from my best friend/sister in law