Hat tip to the Curvy Girls Chronicle where we found this video.
Do you agree with the discussion?
Sign Up for our FREE 4-part video series!
Hat tip to the Curvy Girls Chronicle where we found this video.
Do you agree with the discussion?
Lamar Tyler is co-creator BlackandMarriedWithKids.com. He also is the co-producer of the films Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me, Men Ain't Boys and Still Standing.
This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.
Black and Married with Kids
1-855-410-2695 (BMWK)
P.O. Box 177
Villa Rica, GA 30180
This copyrighted material may not be republished without express permission. The information presented here is for general educational purposes only.
kdcarter says
This needs to be broadcast all over. If people understood this… “black love” wouldn’t be in its current state.
SkeeVee says
This was great and you better believe that I am sharing this with all the women I know.
SkeeVee says
This was great and you better believe that I am sharing this with all the women I know.
Lia Crawford says
YES!
Dani says
i disagree w/Carl when he says there are “definate gender roles” in a man and woman. Gender is not definate, you can be a woman and have masculine behaviors and vice versa. I do believe that each individual relationship should have definate roles and that should be defined by the 2 ppl in that relationship. What works for 1 couple may not work for another. I am a sociology major so i have had several classes on gender roles and i think not understand ‘gender’ is what messes up a lot of relationships. Knowledge is power, and just don’t listen 2 one source before you give into what you hear..research baby! then talk w/your mate to see what they feel about it!
Rita says
HELL-OMrs. Hairston, The tears fell like a waterfall while I read the story of the young lady about suicide. My story is that my child was on the verge of suicide and I didn’t know of it, until her school sent her home and said she couldn’t come back until she saw a therapist. At the time my child was at the top of her class, get ting ready to graduate and become Valedictorian of her class. I was working 2 jobs and never noticed her angious. She had things going on in her young life, and she thought I wouldn’t believe her. This disturbed me so much I was on the verge of suicide myself before I knew it. I was a single parent and I thought of how easy it would be to take my life and end all the pain. But, then came GOD. HE gave me a song , a scripture, and a friend out of nowhere. I started to say JESUS help ME everytime I took a breathe. To this day almost 30 years later I can’t tell you exactly how GOD delivered me, OH, BUT I’AM GLAD, SO GLAD HE DID. Death is not the answer, LIFE IS ALWAYS BETTER, for a moment we can’t always see that. ASK GOD he will help, he specalizes when things seems IMPOSSIBLE.
Ayesha Rivers says
Where can I find this video. I’m unable to view it?
Feliz4life says
Submission is key for a woman. As woman we need to learn that before we can have a fulfilling relationship. And we also need to make sure that we are choosing men who are GOOD leaders.
Misselite says
In regards to submission, in my case I grew up with a single independant strong black mother and that role was instilled in me at the early age of 16 when I had my first child, however, I find myself longing to be “submissive” to my husband (the father of my 1st through 4th children), becasue I played the strong role for so long. I believe the problem lies in him, he knows who I am and relies on me handling everything. At the present time I make more money and he works from home, dealing with the children for the most part because I work late. My issue is when I let go of the control factor, things don’t get done, paid, ect. I can not and do not trust him to provide for my family and myself. This is a major issue in our marriage as repect for the king of the house is lessening to man of the house and from there, he’ll be just another person in the house. I realize the helpmate role, but Feliz is right, the man has to be a good leader.
Beagle Barking says
I strongly believe that gender roles should be a matter between married couples, how each marriage intends to define their respective roles differs with another. Let us have better morals before commiting to marring each other for it will assist in having a common stance on defining gender roles in the marriage life.
Delano Squires says
BMWK,
We should let this be a reminder that everything that glitters ain’t gold…..check the link below..same couple, different side of their story
https://www.bvonlove.com/2011/02/04/were-in-an-open-marriage-a-first-person-account/
Delano Squires says
BMWK,
We should let this be a reminder that everything that glitters ain’t gold…..check the link below..same couple, different side of their story
https://www.bvonlove.com/2011/02/04/were-in-an-open-marriage-a-first-person-account/
BAMSoEasy says
Our community is so “traditional”. We want everything to be the old way… the man does this, the woman does that. And look at our marriage rate and out of wedlock birth rate. We need to stop living in the past and giving men the carte blanche to scapegoat their responsibilities. “She made more money than me, so I didn’t feel like a man.” I call bullshit.
Common sense says that you should lead in YOUR strength areas, and DEFER in your weak areas. This means that the lead shifts from person to person depending on the situation.
Research is already proving that people in egalitarian relationships are HAPPIER. And it’s easy to tell why! Happy wife, happy life 🙂 If you are doing more, she is happier, making the whole house happy.
BAM! So easy.
https://www.salon.com/life/broadsheet/2010/11/05/men_housework
Maxine Shaw says
My first thought was “I feel so sorry for her.” Now it “she deserves whatever she gets.” *Kanye shrug*