“Haters” is such an overused and tired term. How self important a person must be to think that there are people in this world whose sole purpose is to rain on their parade. Haters is a term I’ve rarely used… until I encountered one of my very own and because ‘parade rainer on-er’ just doesn’t have the same ring to it.
“Negative people need drama like oxygen. Stay positive…it will take their breath away!” – Unknown
Yesterday, I received an anonymous letter in the mail. Other than bills, I generally don’t mind receiving written correspondence, but this was different. Here’s a snippet:
“Mrs. Espinoza, I am writing you this letter because I think you need to know about your husband…”
Hold up. This person wants to tell ME about MY husband? *Side eye*. The letter went on to make thinly veiled accusations and advised me not to say anything to him until I “investigate”. Chile, please!
My go to reaction was anger. I wasn’t angry at my husband though. I was angry at the cowardly informant who thought it’d be a good idea to send me an anonymous letter making claims that could affect me and my husband’s marriage. However, here’s the truth; these accusations can only affect our relationship if we let them.
Because of who we are and the relationship we’ve built, my husband and I were able to talk about this incident calmly and honestly. I could easily let this get under my skin and question my husband’s every move. I could also agonize about whether or not I’ll get into a car accident on my daily commute to work, but who would that serve? Worrying in any capacity is useless. At the end of the day, I choose to continue to trust my husband. Yes, choose. We are ALWAYS in choice. In a relationship, trust, much like happiness and forgiveness, is a choice. I choose to trust him but more importantly, I choose to trust God and remember His promises for our lives.
I’m still annoyed at the person who sent the letter because really, who does that? But for the sake of my marriage and my sanity, I’m folding that letter back up and putting it back in the envelope along with any suspicions the sender hoped it would raise and stamping it RETURN TO SENDER. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
What say you BMWK fam? Have you dealt with an attack on your relationship? How did you handle it? How would you handle a similar situation? Let us know in the comments!