Does it seem that every time you start to get close she pulls away? You think maybe she is the one and then she goes into hibernation. It feels like she is purposely doing things to keep you at a distance. If this is happening, know she is not crazy but, she does have a past.
Here are 3 reasons she may be pulling away even though she cares about you very much.
Hear what she is saying from her heart, even when she speaks without saying a word from her mouth.
1. She’s been hurt before.
If she has been hurt before, whether 6 months or 6 years, she has learned from that experience. That experience is now a part of her history and therefore a part of her story. Each scar left from a bad experience has taught her something. She has learned the lesson and now she must protect herself because she won’t be hurt the same way again.
2. She doesn’t yet trust you with her innermost being.
It takes time to build trust. You may trust her fully. Give her time to get to this same place. Until she trusts you completely there are certain things she will draw back from. She may not want to meet your mother just yet or she may pull away when it comes to hanging with your friends.
To her things like this may be signs of intimacy that she is not ready to embrace. It doesn’t mean she thinks there is something wrong with you or your family. Make an effort to understand the meaning certain things hold in her life. If you are meant to be together, her trust in you will grow as you continue to show yourself trustworthy. Help her to see that you are a good man who means her only good.
3. Things are moving too fast.
In a relationship you need to move together, both people going at the same pace. If you are moving quicker than she is ready to go, you will find yourself ahead of her trying to do and say things that she is not yet ready. Slow down.
If you believe she is worth the wait go back and meet her where she is at. Allow her the privilege to move at her own pace without trying to keep up with yours. Be happy that she is not trying to do things just to keep up with your desires. It is best to know the truth of where she is. Respect her honesty.
Pulling away doesn’t always mean this is the end. It can also mean give me time and allow me space. If you are really into her and believe she is the one, pay close attention to this woman. Hear what she is saying from her heart even when she speaks without saying a word from her mouth.
BMWK, What are some more ways women pull back when a man is pursuing them?