“The same things you did to get them, you need to do to keep them.” We’ve all heard it said a million times. But if we’re being honest, sometimes we get so busy that we either forget or those things aren’t much of a priority anymore. When it comes to loving, romancing, and appreciating our spouses, sometimes we just need a prompting so that we can get back in the groove of making them feel special. Here are 5 things to begin saying and doing again today!
Simple things to say:
1. I miss you
I know you remember how good it used to make you feel to hear your lady or man say “Baby I miss you!” Whether it was a phone call or text message you just liked to know you were being missed and thought about. It’s something that only takes two seconds to say or type, but will keep a long lasting smile on your spouse’s face!
2. I love you
When you first started, you wouldn’t leave any conversation without saying it. You wouldn’t go to sleep without saying it and it was always so heartfelt. Don’t assume your spouse just knows it she still needs to hear it.
3. You’re beautiful…you’re handsome!
Who doesn’t want to feel like their spouse still has the hots for them?! Sometimes we think just because we committed to someone that they should just know that we find them sexy or attractive. WRONG! Nothing puts a lil’ pep in the step of your spouse more than when you start noticing them again in that way and making it known.
4. I appreciate you
Remember being so full of appreciation when you were dating? Even the smallest gestures elicited sincere gratitude. Yeah, I know it’s your spouse’s responsibility to do certain things for you and the family. But remember how grateful you used to feel for them? Bring those feelings back! The longer you’re in a relationship, the easier it is to start expecting and stop appreciating. Start again!
“Thank you” is one of the most powerful and sincere phrases in the English language. Say it, and say it often…especially to the one you love the most!
Simple things to do:
6. Write a handwritten letter
Nothing will ever replace a handwritten note, expressing how you feel. Don’t forget to fold it like you used to back in the day!
7. Leave special sticky notes to be found
Sticky notes with sweet thoughts work wonders! The same way you put those sticky notes in your kids’ lunchbox to let them know to have a great day or how awesome they are, leave a few for your spouse. After leaving for a work trip, I found a picture in my coat pocket of my wife and daughter with “have a great meeting dad, we love you!” on the back. And it made me beam.
8. Bring their favorite food or dessert home
Food always does the trick, especially sweets! Stop by the store on the way home and grab her that old school candy bar she loves or that piece of cheesecake she likes. Stop and grab him a 6-pack of his favorite beer or his favorite bag of chips. Just the fact that you took some extra time to do something special for him or her will go a long way.
9. Go for a walk in the park
You used to have so much fun just being in each other’s space, holding hands, walking and talking. I know things get busy but occasionally find time to disconnect and just go for a walk. You’ll be amazed at the good memories it brings back!
I know this sounds elementary but even thinking about doing this with your mate will probably flush your cheeks and make you smile. I don’t mean pecks or simple hello or goodbye kisses either…I mean the real deal! The kind of kisses that lead to long nights and early mornings; the kind of kisses that make you forget about any and everything else and focus only on passion. I’m talking about the kind of kisses that send chills down your spine when just thinking about them. If you and your love haven’t had any of those in a while…now’s the perfect time to change that. Grab a lighter and spark that flame!
The moral of the story is that sometimes we get so busy and we forget. It’s not that the love has died, but sometimes the appreciation, thoughtfulness and passion has taken a nap! Let’s ring a big, loud bell to awaken them again!
BMWK Fam what other things would you add to the list?