BMWK family, I don’t always get personal about my marriage because as much as possible I try to write while keeping our business out of the street. However, today I need to speak on a debate that has been simmering in my home: my husband’s vasectomy, or more accurately, the vasectomy that he refuses to get.
Now, in actuality, he has never openly refused. He agreed to it after the birth of our son. That son will be seven years old in October. Seven years, and one more son later and I’m still waiting.
My husband has given me every possible excuse that exists for why it hasn’t happened yet. From I need foot surgery first (which he hasn’t gotten in seven years) to I haven’t had time to find out how much it costs (I repeat…in seven years).
I know that I could just get my tubes tied. But I am willing to admit that I’m maybe having a moment of due selfishness. I’ve carried three babies, and the last one was an-over-eight-pounder. Through it all I’ve gained and lost probably my own body weight two times over, and my last pregnancy threw me into heart failure.
I am grateful for being able to have healthy babies, but all of the poking and prodding and lying on tables and stretch marks and such has been under my purview. So after all of that, why can’t I be given the gift of him getting a minor snip?
Now that I’m done whining, I’m going to outline a few reasons why, if you don’t want any more babies, men, you should get a vasectomy:
Your sex life will improve exponentially when you don’t have to worry about the possibility of an unplanned pregnancy.
I’ve heard that the word “vasectomy” translated into another language means Freedom!! Don’t quote me on that, but what would it be like to know that all of the sex can happen as often as possible with no worries of the pitter patter of little feet? I have yet to experience this (see above), but I can only imagine the awesomeness.
The procedure is more difficult for women
Take a look at this handy, dandy chart if you want to see an actual breakdown of the difference between a tubal ligation (tubes tied) and a vasectomy. A tubal ligation can be up to ten times as expensive, requires at least double the downtime, carries much more risk and is a lot more likely to fail. Why spend more money and take more chances than you need to?
No, really. Why not? If you know that you don’t want any more children, what is your reasoning for not wanting to make sure that it never happens again? I need answers!
Husbands, would you consider a vasectomy? Why or why not? What do you think wives? Should permanent birth control be the husband’s responsibility?