Self-respect is simply a way of saying a person will not allow someone to undermine their values, disrespect or dishonor them. There are other factors which play a part in our self-respect such as self-esteem, but ultimately, self-respect is our inherent challenge to ourselves that we have a value system. Self-respect is the display that we have the confidence to uphold our own personal beliefs.
I started this article by saying my clients have been blatantly disrespected. The thing to note about each of those clients is, they have strong value systems. They believe they should be honored and respected. Their challenge is they have other factors (fear of being alone, self-esteem, etc.) which allow them to live with the disrespect. We’re working through those challenges.
If you decide you will not accept someone who doesn’t meet your standards, you can build your self-respect. When you decide you will no longer be disrespected, you open the door for one of the many other people out there who will honor and respect you and reach the standard of your value system.
BMWK, How do you deal with disrespect from others?