One of the misconceptions about “church girls” or Christian wives is that once we get saved we lose our sexiness. Some people think we are all conservative prudes who sleep in flannel pajamas from head to toe. Or, we are too good to let go sexually. Not so for the Christian wives I know.
Well, I’m not exactly sure what they sleep in, but based on our conversations and shopping trips, they have no problem letting their inner-sex vixen out. And why should they? Where the Spirit of the Lord is there is liberty (2 Corinthians 3:17), which means as long as the spirit is a part of marriage, then wives can be as free as they want to be with their husbands.
My girlfriends and I don’t spend a lot of time talking about the specifics of our intimate relationships, but we do get our praise on together when a sister suggests she and her husband are on “one accord.” We shout with each other because God is good and so is married sex. We pray for each other when things aren’t as energetic as they need to be. And, we give advice about how to take advantage of the freedom we have in Christ and the freedom we have in the bedroom. Don’t get me wrong. Our conversations are clean, and we still respect the sacred boundaries of marriage.
But, if you can’t talk to other Christian women about spiritual and sexual matters (that are in the Bible, after all), who can you talk to? Older women should teach the younger women about pleasing their husbands and having a fulfilling sex life. These conversations are missing from our churches and in our homes. My daughter, once she gets of age to have these discussions, will know that to be saved is not a sexual death sentence. You are “saving” yourself to experience love and intimacy like God intended it to be. In other words, you can have your way with your husband and he can have his way with you. Hallelujah!
Faith shouldn’t limit us sexually; it should free us because God has given His permission to share and to shout in more ways than one.
BMWK, how do you think faith affects sexuality in marriage?