And as married couples we need the same thing.
We need friends who just don’t tell us what we want to hear but what we need to hear. And friends who aren’t just looking out for the best interest of the person, but the best interest of the marriage.
And the same way you’re not gonna give the crack head down the block permission to check your child, don’t have your homegirl, who can’t keep a man to save her life, being your primary confidant. And likewise for a dude, your homeboy who has 4 different girlfriends AND he’s married may not be the best source of advice for the future of your marriage. You have to know where to go to get good advice. And it’s not a slight on that friend, it just means you don’t go to them for relationship advice unless they’re telling you what not to do. If your best friend just filed bankruptcy, you may not wanna put your families financial future in his hands ya mean?
And as married couples, we have to be willing to open up to our “village” and tell the whole truth, not just our side of the truth. Because what we tell them leads to the advice they give us in return. I’ve heard many convos where the person just makes their spouse sound crazy and act like they’re completely innocent in everything going on… which is the furthest thing from the truth. There are way too many marriages failing and families being torn apart and I truly believe that if we had more investors that many of those marriages might have succeeded.
So if you have friends that are married, ask them this week “how can I invest in your marriage?” They may need a baby sitter so they can have a night out or with everything going on with the economy, a couple going through tough financial times might be able to use a gift card to Fridays or to a movie so they can have a date night. But I can’t stress enough the importance about the “village” that marriages need to help them succeed.
BMWK- how do you support your friends’ marriages?
Finally says
Wonderful article! We more often than not fear anything that requires such a long-term investment with no “apparent” guarantees. We’d rather have the immediate physical, often empty, gratifications. We reap what we sow. If we support and invest in the success of others, we will reap that investment in our own lives. This is a hard lesson to learn and requires a different type of “vision” that is not easy to acquire even though it’s staring us in the face.
NaQuetta Mitchell says
Phenomenal Article…Sharing this with all My Married Friends!!!
Mrs. Prince Bryant says
Omg, I have tears in my eyes because I’ve been saying this since I got married. We NEED each other to succeed. If the odds are already stacked against married couples that means, before you know it your marriage will end. Investors yes, invest in marriages. It’s so unfair for you to go to a wedding, buy a gift, take pictures with the couple and not be there to help them fight for their marriage. It’s been on my heart which means that I need to do my part.
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