From our black celebrity marriage file… of course everyone knows that Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey are married. Now we’ve sat on this one for a long long time because we wanted to see what would happen. Not to say we thought they would divorce like everyone else is saying, we just wanted to make sure they were really married and this was not just a publicity stunt. We do wish them the best in their marriage.
From what we hear, the couple that were friends previously turned it up a notch after performing together in a Carey video then went on something like a 6 week courtship before tying the knot. Now one of my co-workers told me her and her husband married quickly after they started dating, I don’t think it was 6 weeks quick but quick none the less.
BMWK do you think these marriages have just as much of a chance as any other marriage? Have any of you ever had a whirlwind relationship? What were the results? What’s your take on Nick and Mariah?
King James says
I’ve heard many married heads say that they ‘knew’ that they would marry their spouse shortly after meeting. The level of truth in that won’t be known. I’ll let you know. 🙂
TheDad says
We’ve talked about how long is too long but is there such as thing is how quick is too quick in your opinions?
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Leslie says
I believe that within the world of dating-to-marriage relationships, there is a time frame in which to act. The problem with that is that everyone is different.
In today’s society, relationships are too frequently based on physical attraction rather than true compatibility. How can you truly know person after only a couple weeks, unless you’ve known that person as a friend prior? That isn’t even enough time for that person to grow tired of displaying the “I’m perfect for you” facade and just be themselves.
To rehash my previous statement, everyone is different. It would be too short for me, but I can’t accurately dictate another couple’s (especially one I have no personal relationship with) dating-to-marriage time frame.
Mrs. Alozie says
These relationships can absolutely survive and be wonderfully genuine. My husband and I had a 6 month long distance courtship (via phone). I was working as a lawyer and my dh was finishing his studies. When we finally met in person, we turned our “engagement” party into our marriage ceremony. We will be celebrating our 5 year anniversary in May 2009 and we have 3 beautiful sons. What can really help a relationship survive is the commitment to work and philosophy of the couple.
T. Rogers says
I know a couple that married after knowing each other for barely a month. They have been married now for 20+ years. It can happen. I don’t think it is the norm, though.
JNez says
i believe it can happen. my ex-wife and i met randomly and moved in together 6 months later. well it didn’t work out, but it would have if i didn’t have this little issue regarding same sex attraction…
Anonymous says
my God bless them and be with them
Anna says
Rumor has it that Mariah does not do with the sex before marriage thing. This is why she is on her second marriage and dated both briefly. I do think it lasts if you invest in it. I married a blind date wihin six months of meeting. Everyon knows my story. We have been married for over 11 years. We are married because we want to be. We don’t stay married out of obligation. He/we have no kids together. We enjoy each others company and friendship. To just shack up with yet another man was not going to work for me. There are no benefits and only a wife has rights, of course there are exceptions to every rule. A same sex couple had more rights than me being hetrosexual and unmarried just living together.
I do see the happiness that Mariah and Nick show. I think Mariah just needs to be with someone that understands her life style. Nick does not mind taking a back seat being Mr. Carey.
Jewelryrockstar says
I think it will work. They seem happy, the key is to keep working when the newness wears off.
dede says
my first marriage, we knew each other for 6 months, it ended in divorce. my second marriage we dated for six years, it ended in divorce. ok yall i’m on my third, finally, and very last marriage. the difference is this time we are evenly yoked. i prayed and waited, he also prayed and found me. YUP this one is gonna work. i even changed my last name to his.
Constance says
I knew my husband for 3 months before we got married. We will be celebrating our 4 yr anniversary in January. I believe that short courtships can turn into long successful marriages if, like others have stated, both parties are committed.
When I tell you that it was hard the 1st 2 years, that’s an understatement. And it was exacerbated by the fact that I got pregnant about 3 months after we got married. We never thought about leaving though. The only way either of us is leaving is if infidelity or neglect is involved. We are fully committed to doing any and everything to make our marriage work.
I know people might feel like at just 4 years we’re still in the newlywed stage, but through everything that we’ve been through together, that stage ended probably before the end of the 1st year.
I wouldn’t say that our difficulties were due to not knowing each other; they were more due to us knowing each other, but wanting to change the other person. We were young when we got married, so it took a couple of years for us to realize what battles were actually worth fighting and which ones we needed to pray for patience about and let go.
I don’t think that this type of relationship is the norm though. I think that most people are so ingrained to put on a “perfect facade” that the relationship doesn’t get real until several months down the road whereas my husband and I both came into the relationship stating what we were looking for and we weren’t going to take anything less. Most people claim they want somebody to be real with them, but it’s just the natural habit to “put on a face” in order to get the person to like you and stay interested in you.
There’s also a social stigma attached to having a short courtship. Who are we to judge anyone else’s relationship based on our own preconceived notions about what a relationship should look like? If they are in love, I say more power to them. I don’t think that it takes 5 years of being in a relationship to realize if you are made for this person or not. My mom was the most critical person when I told her I was getting married. She disliked my husband very strongly. Now she loves us and she thinks he’s the best thing that ever happened to me. I would never tell him she feels like that though; his head is already too big. Lol
Anna says
dede said:
my first marriage, we knew each other for 6 months, it ended in divorce. my second marriage we dated for six years, it ended in divorce. ok yall im on my third, finally, and very last marriage. the difference is this time we are evenly yoked. i prayed and waited, he also prayed and found me. YUP this one is gonna work. i even changed my last name to his.
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The third time is the charm.
Harriet says
My husband says he knew I was going to be his wife the first time we talked on the phone in June of 03. It took me about another year to be convinced, though. I give him props for patiently waiting. Plus 9 months of premarital counseling didn’t hurt, either. I really wanted to be ready, because I didn’t want us to be in that 52% of Christian marriages that ended in divorce.