Men and women alike have their metaphorical mate in mind. And when on the prowl, this fantasy mate is the standard that potential prospects are measured by. But have you ever thought about the cost of dating your “type”?
Don’t misunderstand me, every relationship comes with a price. We all have to give and take. However, some relationships cost more than others.
Here are five popular personas that may be more costly than most people would expect.
Life of the Party
He has a charismatic, fun-loving personality. Everyone loves to be around him because he is the life of the party. He loves being the center of attention, and he is always “on.”
Unfortunately, he doesn’t know how to turn it off. As such, you are constantly his audience of one, which can be extremely exhausting and tiresome. Socially you’ll have the best relationship, but romantically, you might end up with the short end of the stick.
The bad boy brings excitement, adventure and the thrill of the chase. Their aloof personality might be alluring and even mysterious, but it may also be a shield to hide their personal issues and private pain, which some men feel they need to hide to not seem weak.
As such, some men use the bad boy persona to model their perceived image of what masculinity looks like. Dating a bad boy in the beginning will appear to be fun and exhilarating. However in the long run, you will be disappointed because he is not ready or available to give himself to you mentally or emotionally.
Whether a internationally-known celebrity or just a notable public figure in your hometown, the opportunity to date a celebrity is more likely than not. But don’t get caught up in the glitz and the glamor. A celebrity has to work overtime to make sure his name, image and brand stay intact at all times.
Meaning a relationship might not be a priority; and it will likely take the backseat to his career. Take plenty of pictures because this may be the only way to see him regularly.
The mogul is versed in a myriad of subjects. He is cultured, well-traveled, successful and driven. Depending on your background and exposure, he will possibly introduce you to a new level of sophistication and an entire new way of life.
Unfortunately, due to the demands of his business, he works non-stop, 24/7. He will not always be available. And although he is committed to the relationship, you will often feel as if you are competing with his business.
He is creative, in touch with his feelings and is extremely expressive. He lives in the moment and engulfs all things you. As intoxicating as this experience may be, establishing roots can be tricky. They live for the creative side of life, and some continuously seek escapes rather than dealing with the reality of life.
Artists can be extremely moody, and at times, they will need their egos stroked. For some, their love for their art is No. 1, and you will always be No. 2; and they will never apologize for that fact.
Although these are generalities, there is a foundational truth in each of these descriptions. It should be important for women to understand your dream guy will come with pros and cons.
When you set these lofty requirements for your “dream guy,” be sure to examine the negatives that go with it. Examine a man for who he is and how he treats you versus some idealistic, made-up criteria.
Lastly understand that compromise is inevitable in every relationship, however the level of compromise in these relationships may be far greater. And are you willing to pay the price?
BMWK, what relational costs are you willing to pay for your type?