Are you a high-achieving, strong, spiritual and successful sister who is still single after 40? Are you starting to lose hope that there are any men who share your values and desires for a committed relationship?
Well, let me help a sister out and share some secrets about dating over 40 from the perspective of what men want and how you can attract your perfect match.
The very first thing you should know is that men in their 40s who are serious about relationships tend to want something very different than women in their 40s.
It’s a little shocking to women to hear this because they expect the men in their peer group to want similar things as they do.
But once you are over 35, you’ve entered an experience I like to call “Grown Folks’ Dating” and the game has changed!
Think about this: when you were in high school, you dated guys in your own peer group. I mean, dating an “older” man consisted of picking someone 3 years older but who didn’t own his own car and thought burping games were fun. We all wanted the same things then, right?
In your 20s, you were probably taught to focus on school and your career goals before settling down to start a family. Most men are told to make sure they have something to offer a woman before they settle down but beyond that, there’s not a lot of pressure on them in their 20s to get married.
Now you’ve hit your mid- to late-30s. You had a great birthday bash, but Mr. Right still hasn’t shown up. You’re either burnt out from dating, divorced, or never married and starting to get a bit concerned.
On one hand, you’re climbing the corporate ladder; on the other hand you want kids, and you want to get started soon. You know it’s medically possible, but you’re not wanting to get started with a family at 40. The pressure is on!
The 30-something guys, however, don’t seem to be on your level. They’re not thinking about marriage, or they’re choosing women a bit younger or less ambitious than you are. If they’re the kind of men you like—successful, professional, handsome—they’re in high demand and you can’t understand why you can’t find one.
Now you’re 40. 45. 47. Not married. . . and kinda freaking out!
The guys in your peer group, however, are starting to settle down.
What do 40-year-old men want?
- They want a woman who is confident, giving, fun, supportive, attractive, compassionate, caring, intelligent, and easy to be around.
- They want a long-term relationship. Dating casually just isn’t fun anymore.
- They want a woman who knows what she wants.
Yes! you think to yourself, That’s me. But wait. Why am I still single?
Read more of what a 40 year old man really wants…