HOLD ON TO A LITTLE!

What you’re not willing to do is another determining factor in attracting a potential mate. On the flipside of the point listed above, we also have to stand firm when needed. When we bend on our values and morals, we regret it and it eventually damages the relationship.  Your thoughts and opinions matter. They are the fiber of who you are. When you give up all of who you are and settle for someone who disrespects you, you lose. If it is working for you and it feels right, stay true to yourself.

BE SUPPORTIVE AND ENCOURAGING!

We all need a shoulder to lean on and someone who knows how special we are. We have to also be that person to others. We have to be supportive to the other person. They have to be able to trust us and be confident in the fact that we have their back.

HAVE A LIFE OUTSIDE YOUR RELATIONSHIP!

We still have to have a life of our own. Hanging out with friends, taking time just for ourselves is needed and a great partner should appreciate and encourage that. We never want to show up as that smothering partner. It’s unattractive and sends a potential mate running in the opposite direction.

Not many folks want to be a “dateable” forever. Most of us are looking for that one special person to build our life with. In that search, we must remember what we need, what we can give and what a strong future relationship should include.

BMWK, what do you feel separates a potential spouse from a “dateable”?