People can be very judgmental. We can look at situations from the outside and come to all kinds of assumptions about a person’s life. There have been so many conversations, debates and FB discussions about Siohvaughn Funches-Wade (ex-wife of Dwyane Wade). I have actually participated in a few of the disagreements surrounding her marriage and life after the marriage. No, it’s not any of our business, but I happen to truly empathize with her and what she is going through.
A new video has emerged of Siohvaughn stating that she literally has nothing now.
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I empathize with her because, according to reports, and a dear friend of mine, who happens to be her cousin, Siohvaughn was with Wade before the money and the fame. She was with him when there was nothing. Her parents took him in during the challenges with his own family. She supported him and was his backbone.
I empathize with her because their love began young and there is a special history there that no one can replace.
I empathize with her because she is a parent, who no longer has custody of her babies. I can’t imagine how hard that must be.
I empathize with her because her ex-husband’s new love life is all over TV and magazine covers. There is no escape.
I empathize with her because I have a hard time picturing myself giving my all to someone to end it in this very dark place.
Not everyone handles heartbreak and disappointment the same way. Yes, she needs to eventually accept that the marriage is over and start her own new beginning. But instead of judging and gossiping let’s pray for her situation and healing. Even though it may not be how we would have handled the situation, it’s still someone’s life. Someone’s heart is broken. There is a young woman who is struggling to get her life back on track. Moving on is easier said than done. She has lost the most important people in her life, her children. Now she isn’t actually homeless, but is truly a woman hurt. Please pray that healing will come her way and soon.
I don’t judge her. I know what it’s like to be heart-broken and disappointed.
I think feeling sorry for her is not the answer. Life is hard but if you put all your eggs in one basket you leave yourself no room for growth. If this hasn’t made her dig deep for that survival instinct we all have, I don’t know what will. So what she lost her husband, someone’s husband died! So what she doesn’t have custody of her kids, some parent buried theirs!! She may have been there prior to the fame and money but people change, they grow apart and life moves on. In her case, life is passing her by. I don’t feel sorry for her its more sickening that she is displaying this image of a broken, mentally battered woman when she is stronger than she thinks. This image is pathetic and makes me wonder why a judge granted her ex full custody. People think because a mother gave birth that the father isn’t a good source for being a full time parent. I’ve seen great fathers doing it on their own. I pray she kicks this image and stand strong and fight to be better than what she has become and or was. I’ve been there. Husband and I was married for 15 years, divorced, after I raised his children from age 2 to 18. Left me with absolutely NOTHING!!! I bounced back stronger than ever with little support. It can be done IF the person wants it.
She as a married woman. When you are married that is what you are supposed to do. Put your eggs in one basket or better yet one nest and build that nest. Make it strong and pliable together for your chilren, yourself and your family. Marriage means just that. In today’s society value is not placed on family and nest building withint he boundaries of marriage. I was just askance at the commentary towards her. Mrs. Wade was depicted as the gold digger! She the wife! Its not that we feel sorry for her. We as women and men “empathize” with her. Judging from the battle she’s just gone through, Siohvaughnn will bounce back as you say, but I hope not too fast and not without great self introspection. She first must go through the next battle of winning her kids back. Only then will she be made whole.
She WAS the wife. The divorce was completed four years ago. I believe that counseling is in order for this woman. While I empathize with her I do not feel sorry for her. There are consequences for our actions and she is reaping what she’s sowed the past few years. If she is really concerned about her children she should move on with her life and present a figure they can aspire to.
She is in pain, and feeling pain, She need’s counseling, to help her understand wounded women, help getting through these times. She appears to ignore the need for prearranged visiting agenda, the children are not cattle, and he has and can always one us her with activities, if she calms she can see this, and I’m sure Dwayne has had/still have issues with her rage/or rant for her to say she want’s no money. She does not feel she has the justice in facing him in the courts. She need and deserves the money. She looks good. women of Basketball players with families have some responsibility to acquiring a financial safety nest. I pray she soon get the help she needs even though she does not realize she needs it a private audience could be successful for her. She must talk until she exhaust her self of the pain. I also pray the events she speak of with the children can be worked out with a clearer schedule in writing some what for her. She a beautiful and strong woman, so deserving a relationship of a strong spiritual man.
I agree with what you wrote. It’s a huge difference compared to other articles. You are encouraging us to stay humble and pray! LOL It’s only by God’s grace that it’s not one of us.
With that said, it does challenge us to look at how other people handle heartache and mistreatment. I wouldn’t be surprised if some of her facts are true. The system is just the system. Smart lawyers (and he’s got the money to get them!) know the loop holes and tricks. If you don’t have the money and the knowledge, you can get tricked.
But, if she’s a believer in Jesus Christ, my prayer is for Him to become real to her like nothing else. That He’ll give her friends who would encourage her to press on looking to Him and let Him fight her battles. In the meantime, keep representing and looking like one who trust the Savior and not fight her own battles like that. Prayerfully when she comes out of the midst of the hurt and pain (and unwise support and advice of friends), she’ll be able to learn how to better handle this situation.
I came into the knowledge of the difficulities Mrs. Wade was experiencing with her ex Mr. Wade years late…like just recently. I was appalled absolutely appalled at the vitrol and venom directed her way. I defended her as best I could on some sites, but I could not get over the hatred, name calling and out and out contempt she experienced not only from the media but the social media sites as well. What you wrote was beautiful and now that the financial aspects of her agreement with Mr. Wade has been settled, I pray that she gets her kids back and she finds her way. What she has been through has been extrordinary and Mr. Wade should be very ashamed of himself. His content of character has proven to be very low. But pray for them we shall and I truly hope Mrs. Wade finds her way back to her authentic self which I am sure was a beautiful and loving woman and mother.
I PRAY FOR THIS SISTER AND I ASO PRAY FOR MR.WADE FOR NO OTHER REASON JUST BECAUSE SHE IS THE MOTHER OF YOUR CHILDREN HELP HER SHE IS REACHING OUT. PLEASE REMEMBER YOUR CHILDREN ARE GOING TO GROW UP AND MAKE THEIR OWN DECISIONS ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED TO THEIR MOTHER. PLEASE MY SISTER KEEP LEANING ON GOD HE MAY NOT GIVE YOU THE ANSWER RIGHT AWAY BUT IT WILL ALWAYS COME ON TIME. KEEP REACHING UP! KEEP REACHING OUT!! MONEY DON’T ALWAYS LAST . I JUST KEEP PRAYING FOR YOU.
I just feel for her. God is the only way she can move forward. devastation can take you out of yourself and reality. Think of your children only. Not what mamma or others say. Get yourself in a position so years from now the kids can know the truth. Only you can provide your story twenty years from now.
I pray that our heavenly father will guide and protect her as she goes through this most difficult time in her life. This woman is hurting not only because she lost her children but also lost the love of her life. Some won’t understand until they actually walk in her shoe. so please instead of judging her, lets pray for her and the children as well because her ex husband’s girl friend recently confessed on national tv that she use to be a”MEAN GIRL”
I agree prayer is in order – I’ve NEVER experienced anything similar but simply the THOUGHT of losing my husband (21 years – dated for 10 years and married for 11) after all we’ve been through AND losing my kids is almost unbearable and to read that she should “just move on” kind of ticks me off! I am a Christian and believe that God causes ALL things to work together, but I must admit that if I was hit with the same situation, this would be a major struggle for me. To see what we’ve built together be taken and given to someone else is just…….(loss for words). I don’t believe anyone gets married to get divorced but when you do it young, you truly believe that it’ll be forEVER. What do you do when forever ends and you’re still here…..alone? We don’t make a plan for after forever 🙁 – I do agree that she’s not processing her feelings properly and needs counseling for her and her kid’s sake but come on people you’ve got to feel where she’s coming from!
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the bottom line is mr wade has the money and money is the root of all evil.
Reading some of the comments and the article and title there of. The statements of everyone not judging her. WHY NOT? Isn’t this clearly what she wants us to do, that’s why she sitting out there. Since the “system” (she feels) as failed her, she clearly sending the message to Mr. Wade’s fans and the public “YOU BE THE JUDGE!”
How can she expect us (the public) to consider the situation without judging either one of them and their behavior. Prayer for their children are a must.
She is no longer his wife. according to what was posted she received 5 million, and 25,000 each month ,a house (he paids the morgage) 4 cars he paids the insurance, a house, he paids for if she can not live off 25,000. a month, with no morgage no car payment no kids, (he has the kids).and 5 million, then she need a job. according to her, monthly payment stopped, according to lawyers, she is still receiving payments she is the EX-wife, when is it enought?
she is making her self look bad. get over it.