Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am writing because I am confused about how I should live my life. I am a 25 year old African American male and I am finding it more and more difficult to live a life of unhappiness. I do not have any really good role models. Recently, I got married and continue to struggle. I cannot figure out how I should be living my life. My wife is demanding and … [Read more...]
Are the Wrong Intentions Keeping You from Getting Married?
Has this happened to you before? You hear one part of a scripture in church service and run with it? One of those common scriptures just happens to be in John 15, when Jesus was giving an excellent metaphor about vines, branches, and our discipleship. I'm sure you've heard before, "Ask whatever you wish and it will be given to you." That's what Jesus tells us, then we start … [Read more...]
When It Comes to Love, Should You Really Follow Your Heart?
Ever heard of the phrase "Follow your heart?" We see it everywhere from the cartoons we saw growing up to lines in songs and graphics on T-shirts. It's a way of life to some people, creating a seemingly passionate and romantic way of living to the fullest. Choosing to follow your heart is a bold statement to make, but what does it mean exactly? In my opinion, following your … [Read more...]
The Forgotten Link For a Godly Marriage
My wife and I have magnanimous goals we believe God has given us as a couple to accomplish. After getting married we discussed our passions and goals in order to better understand why God brought us together, and to be able to push each other to achieve them. Many couples marry without truly having the discussion of “Why did God bring us together?”. Yes, to love one … [Read more...]