With the New Year upon us, it’s time to reflect on the 2014 you’ve had, mistakes made and even more memorable accomplishments. I do have to say this for my fellow singles: there are some things you got over this year and may still be dealing with. We are all works in progress. We have God’s grace to cover our mistakes and I pray that we all get the wisdom to not make them … [Read more...]
Singles: How are You “Actively Waiting” for Marriage?
I must admit that there are times when I get distracted by unnecessary things that keep me from being focused on being single. Sometimes it’s other people, TV, or my own thoughts. I realize then that I’m getting off track and need to refocus on what’s important to me in this season of singleness. When you make the decision to be single and actively wait for God’s plan to … [Read more...]
Finding Closure after “It’s over” by Letting God Take the Reins
Walking around with heaviness from having not fully addressing my break up in a matured way, the Holy Spirit prepared me to speak to my ex. I got a heads up in my spirit about him contacting me and shortly afterwards I received an email from him asking to meet up with me later on that week. I was nervous and yet thankful, because in that moment I believed that God was giving me … [Read more...]
New Romance: Is it Destiny or Distraction?
Wedding season is upon us, and often times we can get lost in the emotions of the moment or the routine if you have attended a few. At one wedding I went to a while back, I noted an important theme that resonated in the ceremony: "destiny." The presiding pastor noted that God created the bride with the groom in mind and vice versa. They were put together for a purpose, their … [Read more...]
Ladies: Do You Find It Difficult to Compliment Men?
As I've gotten older, I've learned to appreciate, not just like, a well dressed man. It's the time and attention paid to the details of his overall look, from his crown to his feet, that would make many a lady like myself wave my hands like a mother in church service. Only in my head though, because that would be weird to do it on the train at 8:19 am in the morning on the way … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Slow Down Impulse Dating
All shopping addicts or impulsive folks can relate to the following dilemma. You're walking into your favorite department store (we won't single out just one) and you look for the items that you need and successfully approach the aisles for payment. Then, out of nowhere, something catches your eye at the end cap and it's something that you're thinking about putting in the … [Read more...]
Don’t Let Breakups Break You
I remember when I had a "growing pain" moment a few years ago. My dad came by the house to see how I was doing and it was hard for me to admit that I was in need. I needed gas money for the week and didn't really want to ask him for that, but eventually I told him about it. My dad told me: "I like it when you ask me to help you, you're my daughter." What he said resonated with … [Read more...]
Trip to the Altar: 7 Signs that He’s the One
The other day I was thinking about some of the relationships I was in, that DIDN'T work out. One would think I wouldn't have been so blinded by "love" to recognize these guys clearly weren't "the one" for me. I guess in my case, it took meeting "the one" for me to recognize the difference from God writing my love story versus a bootleg script crafted by Yours Truly. Stevie is … [Read more...]
Singles: Do You Know the Benefits of Dating Yourself?
“Did you come here by yourself?” a girl asked me as I agreed to take their photos in front of the evening’s venue. “Yeah,” I replied, explaining in a nutshell that there were no more group tickets so I came anyway. At the moment it was hard to determine if I was questioned out of pity or out of awe. Either way I got my photo in front of the concert venue, an eager smile across … [Read more...]
Everyone You Meet is Not Your Husband
Last week, I traveled to Washington, D.C. on business. After a long day of meetings, I met up with my favorite cousin at a trendy happy hour. As soon as we walked through the door, someone offered to buy a round of drinks, and while I was still sipping on my Mojito, a Darrin Henson lookalike asked to get me a refill. I smiled and turned down the offer, remembering my early … [Read more...]
10 Things Every Single Needs To Know About Marriage
The world is filled with people who desire marriage, but have no idea what real married life entails. We often run into people who share that their parents have been married for decades but they still don't know how they overcame issues that arose. All of these issues were resolved behind bedroom doors, so their children never got to see the resolution or the process that … [Read more...]