If you've heard it once, you've heard it a thousand times. Marriage is not easy. Like anything in life worth having, it takes work. But, what if you feel your work isn't being valued? Perhaps you sense your wife has lost respect for you. Or maybe your wife is constantly making decisions without communicating with you. If you feel like you're in a losing battle while fighting … [Read more...]
I Despise my Cheating Spouse: Should I Seek Vengeance?
Hello Doctor, I'm writing this out of pain and anger. I've been married since November 2015—only eight short months. My husband and I live in different cities, and the plan was for me to relocate to be with him. During my visits to see him, I noticed he was getting attention from other women. He was receiving text messages from women, and I found out he was visiting them … [Read more...]
Adulterous and Abusive Wife: Do I Have Grounds for a Divorce?
Good afternoon Dr. Buckingham, My wife and I have been married for 19 years. I will admit the marriage has been on rocky ground from day 1, with the exception of the birth of our children. My wife has been verbally abusive the majority of the marriage; she yells and screams at our kids and rarely apologizes when wrong. A few years ago, I read a text message my wife wrote to … [Read more...]
He Cheated, Lied and Even Fathered a Kid, but Now He Wants to Marry Me. Should I?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I just read a few of your articles and thought God must've sent me in your direction. I am currently dealing with infidelity in my relationship and am having a hard time getting through it. Here's my story. I've been dating my now-fiancé for 2.5 years now. We became exclusive a year ago. I just recently found out he had been cheating on me … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: What Should I do if My Spouse Is Not Contributing?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for almost three years; we were together off and on for almost 10 years before that. My husband and I separated once before because of his lack of ability to provide and lead our family. After about a year apart, he seemed to have gotten himself together and came back. Satisfied with the change I saw in him, I agreed to … [Read more...]
Should I Stay in an Unhappy Marriage for the Sake of the Kids?
Dr. Buckingham, I am speaking from the wife's point of view. My husband and I have a similar story to this couple. Some details ring true, my husband had inappropriate text messages with a former neighbor and lied about it when I gave him the opportunity to discuss my suspicions. I have a very strong gut reaction that tells me when something is not right. Earlier in our … [Read more...]
I Don’t Trust My Husband Because He Doesn’t Respect Me: What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham Hello, I have a few questions regarding my marriage. We have been together for 3 years and married 2, one issue is that I have never met, seen nor spoken to the other parent of my spouse's child. I am almost never informed when they are speaking or communicating with each other. It really bothers me because I find myself questioning my trust for them. We … [Read more...]
Can My Relationship Flourish If I am Filled with Resentment?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for 14 years. I have no intention of leaving, but would like advice on how to overcome disappointments. When I married him, he had two children ages 3 and 4. Within months of our marriage, his children came to live with us. While dating, I told my husband that I didn't like men with children because I want to be my … [Read more...]
My Husband’s Ex Does Not Know We Are Married: Is This an Issue?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am married to a man that I've known for a good portion of my life and I love him dearly. We've only been married for a few months. Things started out really crazy. I've already endured a cheating issue, but sought counseling and we decided to work through it, despite my desire to walk. I've hung in thus far, but now this other issue is just eating away … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: Why Do Single Men Place Women in Categories?
Dr. Buckingham, I recently met this single guy who told me that I was very attractive, intelligent and down-to-earth. During our conversation he told me that he wanted to get to know me better. Before I could respond, he ran off a list of the different kinds of women that he does not like to interact with or date. He talked about independent women, desperate women, … [Read more...]
My Inconsiderate Boyfriend Proposed; Should I Leave or Stay?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been in an off/on long distance relationship with my boyfriend for about 4 years now. I don't feel that he respects my time or gives me the adequate attention to make our relationship work. At the moment, we just rekindled, but he is back to his old habit which I absolutely detest. He would promise to call and won't do so in the timeframe he … [Read more...]
Should Love Hurt?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been dating this guy off and on 8 years and have always believed that love could conquer all. We have had our ups and downs over the years, but I have never stopped loving him. Despite how much that he tells me that he loves me, he continues to hurt me. How can a man hurt me so much if he loves me? Sincerely, Cathy Dear Cathy, You must … [Read more...]
I Discovered My Husband Cheated Before Marriage; What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My name is AJ. I have been married to my husband for 2 years, we have been together for 8. I recently found out that he cheated on me with two different women during the time we were dating. He swears he did not cheat while we have been married. I'm devastated by this. I feel like our whole relationship and marriage is a sham. I want to work this out … [Read more...]
Ask Buckingham: I Have a Negative Attitude and Difficulty Thinking Positively
Dr. Buckingham, I have experienced a lot of hardship and adversity in my life and I have very hard time when it comes to thinking positively. My family and friends tell me that I have a very negative attitude and they do not like to be around me because I strike out in anger. I realize that I cannot keep being so negative, but I do not know how to think positively. Sometimes … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: When is It Time to Leave My Marriage?
Dr. Buckingham, My Name is Ashley, and I am married with 2 children: 1 girl and 1 boy whom has Autism. My husband and I have been married for 4 1/2 years. We are not as connected as we used to be. There are a lot of things that I could name that he is not doing for my sake or his kids’ sake; mind you they are 3, and 5 years old. I am drained in the relationship and am not … [Read more...]