Dear Dr. Buckingham, Thank you in advance for considering my advice question! I'm a 34-year-old woman dating a 35-year-old man. We've been together for 2 years and I'm twiddling my thumbs waiting for 1 of 2 things to occur...either he pops the question and/or we finally move in together. We've spoken about marriage, looked at rings, he's asked my dad for my hand (a year … [Read more...]
I Admit I’m a S.W.A. (Sister with an Attitude); But How Else Can I Protect Myself from Getting Hurt?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am 25-year-old black single female with no children. I am writing you because I am having a hard time bonding with men. I don’t know where to begin. I just do not trust men. My father left when I was 12 after he abused my mother for years, and my two brothers are dogs. I want to be in a relationship, but I am afraid of being hurt. I have tried a … [Read more...]
No Proposal After 11 Years of Dating! How Long Should I Wait?
Hi Dr. Buckingham I'm a single 43-year-old, never-been-married women. I've been dating a 53-year-old, divorced man for the past 11 years. We grew up across the street from one another, and our mothers still live across the street from each other. Since we've been dating, he lived in another town in our state of Oklahoma. He retired three years ago and moved to Texas and … [Read more...]
Dating for 5 Years and Engaged for 3: Is This Man Ever Going to Marry Me?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am getting frustrated with my fiancé. We dated for 5 years and have been engaged for 3 years, but he will not commit to me. He is constantly complaining about my lack of commitment to him. He complains that I do not spend enough quality time with him. I cook, clean, and meet his physical needs when I have time and he is still not satisfied. He wants … [Read more...]
Is Marriage Really Just a Piece of Paper? 3 Wedding Vows to Revisit
“Marriage is just a piece of paper anyway.” This is part of one of the many responses I received to an article I wrote last week entitled “Three People Who Don’t Respect Marriage.” There were a plethora of different responses to this article, but there was one reoccurring theme that continues to tug at me. It’s this theme of marriage being “just a piece of paper.” Let’s talk … [Read more...]