Is control the dominant force driving your romantic relationships, friendships or business partnerships? If so, fear is alive and well in your relationships. People create defense mechanisms, which manifest themselves as control issues or tactics because they fear losing someone or something they value. Control is not at all about the person being controlled. It is, however, … [Read more...]
Can I Trust Him With “My” Money? 2 Ways Sharing Bank Accounts Can Help Heal Trust Issues
“We have a bank account for shared housing expenses, but we each have our own separate accounts.” That’s how a friend described her and her husband’s financial arrangement. I didn’t think much about it until I overheard a second-hand conversation from a divorce attorney. He said that couples should share bank accounts, because separate accounts lead to a breakdown in trust. … [Read more...]
Why I Let God Control My Love Story
Over the weekend I had the opportunity to share some words of wisdom and advice to girls age 12-20 about not forcing love, friendships and relationships. The main takeaway was in the form of a Mad Libs activity. I let the girls fill out the first page, which asked for any noun, adjective, name, etc. that came to their minds. The second page, which most didn’t look at, was the … [Read more...]
Are you Still Waiting to Exhale?
by Shannon Y. Tanner The movie was written over 15 years ago and yet, so many of us are still "Waiting to Exhale!" A lesson in love and trust. A couple years ago, I fell in love with a beautiful sun dress in the window of an upscale boutique in Beverly Hills. I would drive by often and just stare in the window at my fantasy dress. My husband knew I wanted … [Read more...]