In an explosive article on the Washington Post, writer Janelle Harris brought up a topic that many single Christian sisters have only dared whisper in their prayer closets. In the piece entitled "Pastors tell black women to be passive and wait for love. I don’t believe in that," Harris tackled head-on the message preached to women in many churches around the world that women … [Read more...]
Dating As a Christian: Do You Have to Be Worldly to Be Dateable?
If you're a single Christian woman, chances are you've been taught that you should wait on God to send you a mate. According to this teaching, waiting looks like going to church, volunteering, serving, giving, reading your Bible and praying for God to send your husband to you. You may have also been taught to avoid being "worldly" by dressing modestly, avoiding places where … [Read more...]
Confessions of Church Players: What Sisters Can Do to Protect Themselves
"Adam & Eve weren't married, " he said. I was dumbfounded. I couldn't believe my boyfriend, a minister in training, was trying to convince me to sleep with him prior to marriage by using Bible characters. When I persisted in saying no, he told me my desire to abstain was a "good goal," but wasn't realistic. This man wasn't the only "church player" I dated prior to … [Read more...]
Does God Choose the Person You’re Supposed to Marry?
Does God choose the person you're supposed to marry? I used to think so. That false belief led me into unhealthy relationships. Let me explain. I met my ex-fiance at the age of 19. I thought he was "The One." We liked many of the same things and shared many of the same values. To top it all off, when asked by my father why he wanted to marry me, my ex said "The Lord told me … [Read more...]
The 5 Stages of a Dating Relationship Done God’s Way
by Jamal Miller, The developmental stages of a relationship have their variations, but when doing it God’s way there are some stages that are pivotal for laying a solid foundation for marriage. Doing it God’s way ensures that there are boundaries set in place to protect each person as they discern whether the relationship has potential for marriage. Dating because you’re … [Read more...]