Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am kind of embarrassed to be asking you this question and putting all my business out in the air, but I am too ashamed to say anything to my family or friends. I have been with only two men in my life and I am 38 years old. I recently went to the doctor because some weird stuff was going on with my body and I found out that I have genital herpes. I … [Read more...]
Should I Get Married Again if I am Feeling Extremely Anxious?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, Please, I need your candid advice. I'm a 30-year-old lady, salary earner, previously married in 2008 to a man who never really appreciated me. Two years later, the marriage crashed but I have two daughters to show for it, though they are presently with their father. We never went through a court process to obtain a proper divorce. He just disappeared … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: What Should I do if My Spouse Is Not Contributing?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for almost three years; we were together off and on for almost 10 years before that. My husband and I separated once before because of his lack of ability to provide and lead our family. After about a year apart, he seemed to have gotten himself together and came back. Satisfied with the change I saw in him, I agreed to … [Read more...]
Should I Stay in an Unhappy Marriage for the Sake of the Kids?
Dr. Buckingham, I am speaking from the wife's point of view. My husband and I have a similar story to this couple. Some details ring true, my husband had inappropriate text messages with a former neighbor and lied about it when I gave him the opportunity to discuss my suspicions. I have a very strong gut reaction that tells me when something is not right. Earlier in our … [Read more...]
I Don’t Trust My Husband Because He Doesn’t Respect Me: What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham Hello, I have a few questions regarding my marriage. We have been together for 3 years and married 2, one issue is that I have never met, seen nor spoken to the other parent of my spouse's child. I am almost never informed when they are speaking or communicating with each other. It really bothers me because I find myself questioning my trust for them. We … [Read more...]
Can My Relationship Flourish If I am Filled with Resentment?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for 14 years. I have no intention of leaving, but would like advice on how to overcome disappointments. When I married him, he had two children ages 3 and 4. Within months of our marriage, his children came to live with us. While dating, I told my husband that I didn't like men with children because I want to be my … [Read more...]
My Husband’s Ex Does Not Know We Are Married: Is This an Issue?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am married to a man that I've known for a good portion of my life and I love him dearly. We've only been married for a few months. Things started out really crazy. I've already endured a cheating issue, but sought counseling and we decided to work through it, despite my desire to walk. I've hung in thus far, but now this other issue is just eating away … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: Why Do Single Men Place Women in Categories?
Dr. Buckingham, I recently met this single guy who told me that I was very attractive, intelligent and down-to-earth. During our conversation he told me that he wanted to get to know me better. Before I could respond, he ran off a list of the different kinds of women that he does not like to interact with or date. He talked about independent women, desperate women, … [Read more...]
My Inconsiderate Boyfriend Proposed; Should I Leave or Stay?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been in an off/on long distance relationship with my boyfriend for about 4 years now. I don't feel that he respects my time or gives me the adequate attention to make our relationship work. At the moment, we just rekindled, but he is back to his old habit which I absolutely detest. He would promise to call and won't do so in the timeframe he … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: Should I See a Therapist or My Pastor?
Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been having marital problems for several years now and I am ready to throw in the towel. We continue to argue over simple things and end up frustrating each other. We pray for each other and together. We have talked to the pastor several times and have received some helpful guidance. Things get better for a while, but we continue to argue … [Read more...]