Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been dating this guy off and on 8 years and have always believed that love could conquer all. We have had our ups and downs over the years, but I have never stopped loving him. Despite how much that he tells me that he loves me, he continues to hurt me. How can a man hurt me so much if he loves me? Sincerely, Cathy Dear Cathy, You must … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: Should I See a Therapist or My Pastor?
Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been having marital problems for several years now and I am ready to throw in the towel. We continue to argue over simple things and end up frustrating each other. We pray for each other and together. We have talked to the pastor several times and have received some helpful guidance. Things get better for a while, but we continue to argue … [Read more...]
The Difference between Offensive Players and Defensive Players in Relationships
From personal and professional experiences, I have come to understand that relationships are only as successful as the players who establish and participate in them. I have also come to understand that the lack of understanding of the differences between offensive players and defensive players in relationships can cause and/or contribute to all out warfare and unhappiness in a … [Read more...]
How Important Is It To Share Similar Core Values With Your Spouse?
By Dr. Dwayne L. Buckingham Values are traits that are considered worthwhile and represent an individual's highest priorities and deeply held driving forces. Value differences in relationships mean that additional work is necessary to coexist in harmony. Therefore, it is extremely important to share similar core values with the man or woman that you choose to … [Read more...]