Therapists like myself help people develop new coping skills, adapt to change, and grow from adversity. I make this statement to help you understand that there is no such thing as “fixing” people. However, based on the fact that you are still holding on to the pain of betrayal and being dishonest with your husband, you should seek professional counseling. The only … [Read more...]
My Husband Committed Adultery Twice and Had Two Kids: Has My Marriage Run Its Course?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 21 years. My husband had two affairs early in our marriage that resulted in 2 love children by different women. I decided to stay for our 3 children. My husband has to pay support for these children and I had a lot of anger about having to struggle. I had to be the one who always worked multiple jobs so that my 3 kids did not … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Save a Desperate Marriage
Dear Dr. Buckingham, Hello. I have been married for 14 years. We have two children ages 16 and 10. I've had an emotional relationship with another man for 5 years. My husband is a gamer and our values are different. He spends a lot of his time gaming and he doesn't value a tidy home like I do among many other differences. Because of those issues we have been fighting for … [Read more...]
6 Soul Cleansing Ways to Truly Let Past Hurt Become Water Under the Bridge
Let’s just make this clear as we get started – When you hurt, you hurt. It doesn’t matter if anyone else thinks your hurt is valid. You know what you feel. So how do you truly let past hurts become water under the bridge? In other words, how do you let it go to the point that it no longer affects your life in a negative way? Related: Read these 6 helpful ways to overcome … [Read more...]
Why Is My Spouse Still Salty After An Apology? 5 Reasons To Wait For Forgiveness
Disagreements happen to the best of couples. I find that love is an experience where you learn as you grow, yes grow. The same way we discover how to raise a child, or budget our finances is similar to how we learn to develop a successful relationship; basically, by trial and error. Most of what I address here on BMWK is focused on helping couples overcome the difficulties … [Read more...]