by Harriet Hairston Disclaimer: This article is Rated MA: for mature audiences only. It's an honest assessment of some attitudes I had towards sex that I recently took a deeper look into. I've always been very transparent in my writing, but very rarely have I approached the subject of sex as the sole content of an article. If it makes you uncomfortable, please don't … [Read more...]
Your 20%
by Harriet Hairston The 80/20 rule in marriages is something that we all know about: at any given time in a marriage, 80% of an individuals wants and/or needs are met, but 20% of them are either neglected or fall short. The problem arises when a spouse begins to actively seek out fulfillment of the 20% in the arms of another person. Knowing about that rule in general … [Read more...]
Is Monogamy Unnatural?
by Harriet Hairston "I don't think infidelity is inevitable, but monogamy is definitely unnatural!" ~ BFP I wrote an article a while back about whether or not monogamy was realistic, but even in all the commentary, questions about the validity of relationships--specifically marriages--still arise in my mind. Those questions mentally bombard me, especially after reading … [Read more...]
March Madness
by Harriet Hairston There are some strange things going on in the neighborhood of the world today, and I just want to make sure I'm not the only one noticing them: This past Sunday was the third day of Spring. All week in my region, the weather was 65-75 degrees. Imagine my surprise upon our departure from home to church to see it SNOWING in a place where it's typically … [Read more...]
Marriage and the Military
by Harriet Hairston There comes a time in everyone's life when it's essential to get back to the basics. In case you hadn't heard, the U.S. Army just did a complete overhaul of its basic military training practices for the first time in 30 years! Because of the nature of current warfare in Iraq and Afghanistan, they thought it necessary to shift their focus from five mile … [Read more...]
Lip/Life Service for Your Marriage
by Harriet Hairston I read an article last week from Crosswalk.com that challenged me to continue to change my pattern of speech with my husband. Whitney Hopler described eight phrases that have the potential to change a marriage for the better. Although my marriage is not in crisis (anymore), I'm always looking for preventative measures and fun ways to spice it … [Read more...]
Activism = CHANGE…Not Complaint
by Harriet Hairston There's a lot that bothers me about America in general. We place too much stock in the unessential (stardom, entertainment, gossip) and not enough on the important things (marriage, family, parenthood, children). Before you tell me to leave and move to another country, let me say that I don't think any other country would provide me the same … [Read more...]
What Every Woman Should Know
by Harriet Hairston I read an article on Yahoo over the weekend that really helped me, entitled, "10 Things Men Wished Women Knew About Them." Some of them were pretty obvious, like the fact that these creatures cloaked in mystery and wonder like a compliment every now and then. I compliment my husband, and the grunts he gives in reply are good enough for me. LOL But … [Read more...]
Interview With The Author: Harriet Hairston
BMWK staff writer Harriet Hairston recently released her first book Who Are You? and we got her to give us the inside scoop on what it's all about. Check out the audio interview below we did with Harriet and then go pick up the book here! [audio:https://184.168.89.220/Audio/WhoAreYou.mp3] Who Are You? Understanding Your Identity in Jesus Christ By Harriet R. Hairston, … [Read more...]
Get Over It!
by Harriet Hairston Lately, I've been having difficulty moving on from a particularly painful situation. I thought I was over it, but little inklings of what happened keep entering my mind, and if I don't fight them off immediately, they grow like a cancer and attempt to wreak havoc on my thoughts and emotions. I have too many good things going on in my … [Read more...]
48 Hours
by Harriet Hairston There is no rhyme or reason to this article. I just wanted to express how much I learned over the weekend, and what a life changing time I had. On Saturday, my husband and I completed a business deal that gave us a little residual income that allowed us to get out of town for the rest of the weekend. It was truly a blessing. Once we … [Read more...]
Red Flags
by Harriet Hairston Do you have a characteristic that acts as both a blessing AND a curse? I do. I always want to see the best in other people, sometimes to the point where I blind myself to the red flags before my eyes. It's one thing to be compassionate, and yet another to excuse ridiculous behavior. This could apply to a relationship, a work situation or even a family … [Read more...]
Dang…We’re Getting Fat!
by Harriet Hairston My husband walks around the house like he's pregnant or something: "Baby, LOOK at this!" he says, as he points to his stomach. I just shake my head...he's pinching a friggin' inch, but I'm folding a roll! I'm not trying to feel sorry for his little bit of weight gain. Actually, it's quite attractive to me. When we got married, I thought he was … [Read more...]
Don’t Trip…He Ain’t Through With Me Yet
by Harriet Hairston Sometimes I think women can be so performance driven within their marriages that they forget how to be human. I would LOVE to say that I'm perfect in all my conversations and dealings with other people, but based on my past behavior, that's just not the case at all. I've acted like a straight up FOOL on many occasions...especially in the first 18 … [Read more...]
Harriet Hairston Releases Her First Book, Who Are You?
BMWK contributor Harriet Hairston has just released her first book entitled, Who Are You? I know how Harriet has touched many of your lives and marriages with her candid discussion on things she's gone through personally in her life and now is your opportunity to sow back into her and her family. From the Author: "Who Are You" is a book about finding and maintaining your … [Read more...]