This is part of a sponsored campaign with Wells Fargo. All opinions are my own. Recently, I had such a wonderful time sitting on BMWK’s Financial Intimacy panel sponsored by Wells Fargo. Founders of BMWK, Ronnie and Lamar Tyler, strategically positioned this discussion as the kick-off event to their 3rd annual BMWK Marriage Cruise—to make it clear that financial connection, … [Read more...]
Financial Intimacy – What is It and Why Black Couples Need It So Much?
Of the many intimacies that we attend to and invest our energy into throughout the course of a relationship, financial intimacy usually is not at the top of the list...despite its impact on the day-to-day functioning and operations of a household. In order to have a healthy, trusting, and holistic marriage, though, we must pay close attention to how we are working on deepening … [Read more...]
Is It Possible to Mix Love and Business Without Destroying Your Marriage?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My wife and I fight often because our views about money and stability are totally opposite. We have a business together and she is driving me crazy. We run a clothing store together. My wife is responsible for ordering supplies and maintaining the inventory. I manage the books and supervise our employees. We have distinct roles, but she is constantly … [Read more...]
Free Couples Webinar: How Couples Can Turn Their Side Hustle into Their Main Hustle to Build Wealth
When a husband and wife embark on a business venture together, it adds a unique dynamic to their relationship. The idea of working with your spouse seems exciting, but the reality is it can lead to great success or great failure for the business and the marriage alike. Given the incredible 50 percent divorce rate in this country, it is never smart to add more stress than … [Read more...]
Free Video Series: How to Build a Business with Your Spouse
We’re Lamar and Ronnie Tyler, the founders of this website, BlackandMarriedwithKids.com, and the Couples in Busine$$ System. We started our website in the corner of our bedroom in 2007 and have worked to turn it into a thriving business that employs people from our community and that will allow us to leave a legacy for our children. As we interact with thousands of couples … [Read more...]
5 Ways Couples Can Grow Closer Together and Not Apart During Unemployment
Today, I was informed that my long term substitute teacher contract was ending in a few days. I have been a sub for the past 4 years. I worked in a new classroom or school every year for an entire school year. And, this will be the first time I will not be completing an entire year. “When one door closes another door opens, but we so often look so long and so regretfully … [Read more...]
FREE Singles Webinar: Cleaning Your Financial Closet – 5 Money Mistakes Singles Make Before Love
Money is an area singles should gain control of, now, in preparation for a relationship, if that is what’s desired. Don't wait until after you are in a serious relationship to get yourself together financially. Take advantage of this time as a single to get your ducks in order. If you are seriously thinking about merging your life with someone else, then you don't want to … [Read more...]
FREE – Three Part Video Series on Love & Money!
The two biggest areas that can impact your happiness are your relationships and finances. And the two go hand-in-hand. You see, poor financial decisions cause stress in your relationships. And poor relationship choices most certainly can devastate your finances. Our friends over on the Grown Zone, Zara Green - personal growth trainer and Alfred Edmond Jr.- business and … [Read more...]
My Husband Asked if I Was Happy in Our Marriage, I Had to Be Honest
The other day my husband asked me on a scale of 1 to 10, how happy I was in our marriage. We're coming up on our 7 month wedding anniversary and tend to check in with each other about what's working in our marriage, and what areas we can afford to improve in. It didn't take long for me to answer my husband's question. I automatically knew I couldn't give him a confident 10. … [Read more...]
How Can I Know if My Husband Married Me for Love, not Financial Security?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I married a spoiled momma's boy. At the time, I didn't know how spoiled he was. His mother helps him financially and he relies on her and me for money. How can I know for sure if my husband married me for love, not for financial security? Dear Financially Unsure, Love and financial security are two factors that propel a large percentage of … [Read more...]
Love and Money: Yours, Mines or Ours?
by Terry and Deborah Owens, On a recent Wealthy U News One segment on News One Now with Roland S. Martin, we discussed couples and money and how to get past financial stumbling blocks and build wealth together. One of the points that Roland made that I whole heartedly agree with is that, “Some couples manage their money like they are room mates in case things don’t work … [Read more...]
BMWK Cruise: The 3 C’s to Managing Love and Money in Your Marriage
by Terry and Deborah Owens Love and Money was the title of our workshop on the Black and Married With Kids Cruise and imagine our surprise to arrive home and find a new Couples Retirement Study from Fidelity Investments. It drives home the same message we delivered to the more than 70 couples that sat in the audience eager for knowledge: “Go Back To Basics With The Three … [Read more...]
It’s Still Cheating: Are The Holidays Making You Financially Unfaithful?
No one likes to talk about it, but preparing for the holiday season can really create financial tension within a marriage. On the one hand, we know that the holiday season is that time of the year where, we, as a nation and global community reflect on what peace, goodwill, and love for our families and our fellow human being means to us. But if we were honest, we also know … [Read more...]