Dear Dr. Buckingham, My 10-year marriage is on the rocks, and I'm starting to believe that my mother is the cause. I grew up watching my mother being aggressive toward my father. She often told him what to do, and he did not push back. He was not good with expressing his emotions unless he was angry. I believe he took her stuff and just focused on being a great … [Read more...]
How Do You Cope with a Traumatized Spouse?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My marriage is just 9 months old. My wife is pregnant and I lost my job 6 months ago. I try doing other things to provide for the family but, it's not easy. My wife works and her salary is OK for us but I know it's my responsibility. I know she expects more from me but, I've been unable to find a job. Recently, she has been very angry. She calls me … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Why Trying to Change Your Spouse Will Bring Resentment Before Acceptance
Even though most of us know how hard it is to change anyone, including ourselves, we often enter into relationships with expectations that are not in alignment with who our mate is. Despite the love and affection we may have for the person we married, we sometimes think that maybe—just maybe—the love we have for them will magically change some quality we don’t care for. But … [Read more...]