If you haven’t read the book, “The Five Love Languages,” by Dr. Gary Chapman, I suggest it as excellent reading to continue to grow a healthy relationship, or help to heal a broken relationship. While it takes more than a book to build our relationship, one thing is certain, there is action required to serve another human being. There is no way around it. Our narcissistic … [Read more...]
After Nine Years of Marriage, I’m Finally Ready to be Married
After nine years of marriage, I don’t know if I’ve learned a whole lot. I knew it was going to be difficult. I knew it would be a challenge. I also knew it had the potential to be one of the greatest experiences of my life. As a kid, I didn’t really have a decent example of marital bliss since I was raised primarily by my single father. He always made sure we had a maternal … [Read more...]
5 Sacrifices I’m Not Willing to Make in Marriage
"I know I'm supposed to hang in there through the good and the bad, but I can't take it anymore." Many spouses feel this way. Since I minister primarily to women, I'll address the confusion I hear in their voices when they're dealing with a marital storm. Whoever told you that you must "lose you" or sacrifice mind, body, and soul for a marriage lied. Yes, they straight up … [Read more...]
Do You Play the Giving Game with Your Spouse?
This idea was recently shared in a comment on an article I had written. The article focused on actions needed to maintain a healthy relationship. This reader stated that she and her husband frequently play the giving game; where their individual goal is to out give their partner. No, not in expensive gifts, but in the areas that matter the most. I love this concept and I truly … [Read more...]
10 Sacrifices Married Folks Gladly Make in the Bedroom
If you don’t know by now, Lamar and I are participating in the Serta 2013 Ambassador Blogger Program. And one of the perks of the program is that we are now the owners of the iComfort Directions Epic model with Motion Custom Adjustable Base. And trust me, this is a very very very nice mattress set! Lamar sleeps like a baby on that mattress and he’s enjoying the special … [Read more...]
Sacrificing for My Wife; Learning to be Selfless in My Marriage
This weekend my wife Tanya told me she was taking Naomi to downtown Silver Spring to help support one of her homegirls who was selling jewelry which was great for me cause I can ALWAYS use a break for some me time! They left around 11am and after a wonderful quiet day of playing PS3, making beats and watching some of Season 4 of the Wire...I looked up and saw that it was 7pm! I … [Read more...]