Dear Dr. Buckingham, I need help and fast, I been married 2 years and financially my husband and I are unstable He has an ex wife and a child with her. I have two from a previous relationship and we have a child together. A few years ago I picked up and moved so we could be closer to his daughter. Things didn't work out so we moved back to my hometown. Before I met my … [Read more...]
Money and Marriage: 5 Financial Tips to Strengthen Your Relationship
By: Kyle Strozier It’s been said that the number one cause of strife, arguments and eventual breakdowns in marriage is...money. I’m sure we all know of personal accounts that will corroborate this. I’m here to say, that needn’t be the case for you. Marriage is a union of two people. However, for many couples, that union stops immediately at money. Here are a few tips … [Read more...]
Financial Intimacy – What is It and Why Black Couples Need It So Much?
Of the many intimacies that we attend to and invest our energy into throughout the course of a relationship, financial intimacy usually is not at the top of the list...despite its impact on the day-to-day functioning and operations of a household. In order to have a healthy, trusting, and holistic marriage, though, we must pay close attention to how we are working on deepening … [Read more...]
5 Ways Couples Can Grow Closer Together and Not Apart During Unemployment
Today, I was informed that my long term substitute teacher contract was ending in a few days. I have been a sub for the past 4 years. I worked in a new classroom or school every year for an entire school year. And, this will be the first time I will not be completing an entire year. “When one door closes another door opens, but we so often look so long and so regretfully … [Read more...]
Money & Marriage: 2 Ways Couples Can Get on the Same Page Financially
Soon after Derek proposed to Carrie, he got a bit of a surprise. He found out her house was headed into foreclosure. They still got married and faced the financial disaster together because, as they put it: "We had no choice. The bank wasn’t taking excuses in lieu of mortgage payments.” The conversations and decisions that Derek and Carrie had to make early in their marriage … [Read more...]
Want a Marriage That Will Last a Lifetime? Throw Some Money At It!
I had a conversation with my mentor about improving my sales strategy to better position myself to help my Frugal Feminista community solve their biggest and ugliest financial problems. In our conversation, he shared the backend of his business operations with me. He was able to pinpoint one of his best customers; let’s name him "Mr. Love"—what he bought, what videos he … [Read more...]
5 Ways Couples Commit Financial Infidelity
By Toni Husbands Webster.com defines infidelity as: Unfaithfulness to a moral obligation Marital unfaithfulness or an instance of it Are you morally obligated to be open and honest with your spouse in all areas – including the finances? Absolutely! For those who’ve experienced an extreme breach of trust regarding finances or are dealing with an actual disorder, … [Read more...]
10 Things that Dramatically Changed After I Got Married
Hello beautiful people! I hope everyone is doing well, and being disciplined with their New Year's resolutions. We have at least one more week, until we fall off. Just kidding :). Well, I've been married for a little over 4 months now. I don't know why, but it feels like Stevie and I have been together forever. I literally can't see myself without him, ever. And whenever I … [Read more...]
Money & Marriage: How to Get on the Same Page Financially
Money. Moola. Cash. Cheddar. Whatever you call it, money is serious business and a hot topic for lots of couples. A 2013 study found that, disagreements about money are one of the leading causes of divorce. The study also found that it takes a couple longer to recover from a fight about finances than any other fight. So how do you safeguard your relationship against money … [Read more...]
Does It Take A Lot of Money to Be Married?
I was recently asked this question by a young adult. Does it take a lot of money to be married is a good question. The person did not ask does it take a lot of money to “get” married, that’s an easy question to answer. No, the question asked was much harder. Does it take a lot of money to be married – that is a tough one because “a lot” of money is very relative, there are also … [Read more...]
3 Strategies to Keep Money Problems from Breaking Your Marriage
When there are money challenges in a marriage things can be tough. You can let the challenge strengthen your marriage, making it stronger. Or, you can let it tear you apart. Please don’t let it tear you apart. You can work together through the scarcity and draw in closer to one another. When you work together towards your goals you accomplish more than you ever could on your … [Read more...]