Dr. Buckingham, A few years back I discovered my wife having secret phone calls and text messages from an old high school flame. After some extensive research, I found out this guy has been in the background for years. Mind you, my wife is in her mid 30s but has been in contact with this guy since high school. He even asked her to marry him more than once while we were … [Read more...]
One Example: How a Lack of Honesty Destroyed a Relationship
Couples are often misguided into thinking that it’s better to lie to their mate rather than be honest and risk hurting their feelings. Or they justify deceitful behavior by convincing themselves that what their mate doesn’t know won’t hurt them. My work as a Relationship Life Coach coupled with the many conversations I’ve have with friends, family, and colleagues confirms … [Read more...]
Can My Marriage Work Without Trust? Help!
Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for seven years. We share 3 small children together. The marriage has been rocky from the beginning. My husband has had infidelity issues since the beginning of the marriage. Throughout the years, we have been trying to build trust, but every so often I discover something that I’m not pleased with. Facebook messages, text messages, and his … [Read more...]
How Can I Keep my Relationship Together when Our Communication is so Poor?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, I have been engaged for almost a year to a 48 year old man. I am 34. He is from Boston, MA and really does not go up there much. But as of lately, he has visited his family because his dad is ill. We have good communication but he decided to visit this past Friday and told me he was coming back Sunday. He has a child from a previous marriage and he was up … [Read more...]